I've started going to jive lessons, which is great for meeting and interacting with women. Practically everyone at this place is friendly, and some of the women are just really nice and I wouldn't consider them potentials, but there have been some, three that come to mind that have seemed clearly attracted to me:

#1 Instructor - Nice girl, reasonably good looking, slightly strange way about her but not offputting. Showed a clear interest by asking my name, then approached me again and hung around me despite me not giving her a lot of encouragement.

#2 Instructor, girl who does the demonstrations on stage - Was distracted by her fit arse while she was demonstrating the moves which didn't help with the dancing. She "coincidentally" came to the bar while I was stood there and we chatted and had a dance. She is cute and a very sweet person but there was also a certain sexual subtext to our conversation i.e. I was talking about how the other instructor said I was being too rough, she said she likes it rough, I'm paraphrasing.

#3 This is where it gets messy. This girl is reasonable looking, like #1, decent figure, but came across quite weird. E.g. when we were dancing she asked if I though Margaret Thatcher would have done well at being led. I see the point, but random. Later I asked her what she did when she wasn't there and initially she drew a complete blank. She then said some fairly lame stuff about going to the gym. I wouldn't mind so much only she didn't seem to care that she had nothing good to say. Then she introduced me to some of her friends, and asked me my name a second time, although I'd told her maybe a minute before. Fine if it was a deliberate neg for some reason, but if it's just inattentiveness I'm not impressed. I didn't seem to click with her friends particularly either.

Trouble is, girl #3 and I had great chemistry, good eye contact, easy kino, just totally clicked. We were dancing and I was having trouble focusing on the moves because I felt like I could just grab her and start kissing her and it would be right, even if not the "appropriate" thing to do. Even when dancing with the objectively more attractive #2 (sound like I'm on Blind Date here lol), I was distracted thinking about girl #3.

What's annoying is I've been working on non-neediness and trying to make it a lifestyle and it's been going great, to the point that before arriving at this jive night, I became aware that I wasn't feeling the desire to find a girlfriend at all, I seemed to have eliminated that for the time. Then this girl got me thinking about what could happen between us, and it pisses me off, especially when I could harshly describe her as "low value" based on my interactions with her, compared to girl #2 who is clearly high value.

So I guess my question is, do you guys make it a point to follow wherever the chemistry leads you, or would you try to be more objective about a girl's attractiveness/social value?

Thanks in advance for your feedback.

~Shotgun

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