Why the fuck do girls try and make you Jealous? This girl is pissing me the fuck off man. I suppose its good because it makes me want to improve myself and gives me drive but she is like fucking lady macbeth. She is sooo fucking smart but is a bit insecure and I think tries to make me jealous to reassure herself. She is fucking jealousy plot-lining me. Fucking bitch, the nerve of her!

What is the best way to respond to jealousy plotlines? The debate is whether to ramp it up (what I think she wants me to do) but this may reward her behavior and she will just no doubt do it again and again. Or to casually ignore her and just carry on as normal.

I have been doing the second, just acting unphased or bothered kind of like, are you finished yet cos this is boring me. However, I don't know how well this is working, she is incredibly smart (emotionally), and whether I am covering this up, I am unsure. No matter who you are it is tough to hide jealousy, like tough.

Btw we are in a "open relationship", sleeping with each other about once a week. She drops other people shes seeing in convos and shit, I DONT (I do not see the need). I WILL NOT get in a relationship with her, she communicates the same to me.

The problem isn't her Bro. It's you own jealousy issues grinding at your guts.

An open relationship is a relationship where one person does not own the other. The couple are not exclusively seeing each other and can date, flirt and hook up with other people should they wish to do so.

You agreed to it!

In a true open relationship the couple will be fully honest with each other. She is holding up her end.
You are not.

They will not get pissed at each other for stupid things such as not calling, wearing a slutty top, passing out cold in a club, kissing that girl/boy in the club. In fact they will just love each other for who they are and support each other through times of need.

If you do not want that type of relationship, you have two choices.

1. COMMIT

2. GET OUT

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Cheers bro.

You're right. But how on earth do you rid yourself of one of the most natural and powerful emotions on the earth. I don't think you can. Like im totally cool with her going and seeing other people and will encourage it. But when its in my face, I find it incredibly difficult to not get jealous. It's a natural emotion, she knows this and I know it. She's done it to me and I've done it to her.

You describe the open relationship in a textbook format. The philosophy is appealing and I trying to adhere but i find it inevitable that i progress through these spikes of emotion (I am clear in accepting that). I play the game with the ups and the lows.

How would you advise how to lose these feelings and progress towards your textbook matra of an open relationship?

A couple of suggestions.

1. Keep only as a FWB, no relationship, sex only no going out on "dates". Only meeting for sex at your place or hers.

2. Until you feel you can keep your own emotions in check, do not proliferate clubs, bars, parties, where she would have ample opportunity to flirt in your presence. If she insists, let her go on her own, you go to your own version. Also do not be afraid to flip the script, why hold back, flirt openly in front of her. Reserving yourself won't help a damn thing, there is no commitment, so why the false honor?

3. Make sure you are aware of the cause of the jealousy, i.e. Simply the fact that she does this in front of you while aware you have feelings for her and you think those feeling are reciprocal? Or because it is easier for her to flirt and hook up than it is for you, and her options out number yours?

People make their situation choices daily, if you do not like the situation your in, don't be in it!

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