I met a girl about a month ago that I've gone out with a few times already. Sometimes she is affectionate and says or does things that make it clear to me that she likes me. At other times, however, she acts quite indifferent and disinterested. Despite my better judgment, I realize that at times I make it too obvious that I'm really into her and I suspect that that's reason why she pushes back and acts cold. (Classic I know.)

Anyway, regardless of the reason why, it's undeniable that she's "on the fence" about me. Does anyone have any suggestions general or specific that can get a girl like this who presumably has mixed feelings about a guy to be swayed and fall on the good side (my side) of the fence?

One thought I've been having is to tell her that I am currently dating two other girls (true) in order to (1) rectify some of the harm I may have caused by making it too obvious I'm into her (i.e., demonstrate she's not the center of my world), and (2) let her know that I have options and that I'm also a prize (i.e., she may lose me if she doesn't try harder). Anyone think this specifically is a good idea? Or can it back fire?

Thanks.

Not bad but don't make it obvious you are dating them, things like texting other girls, having them talk to you on social media shows that you have more options, just telling her makes it look to obvious. Also I'd suggest you be a little distant with her gives off the perception that your busy. Have you k-closed or f-closed yet?

Hmm, good point Magic about it being too obvious if I outright tell her. It may look contrived and even seem like I'm trying too hard if I directly bring it up. Less obvious approaches may be best. For example, one trick a friend of mine would do is to leave his phone out on a coffee table next to where him and his date would be sitting. He'd make sure that he had caller ID photos of his female friends programmed into his smartphone so that when they called him their photos/name would come up on his screen and his date could see. "Oh I'll just call her back later..." Not too shabby.

No f-close but every time I see her we have a 2 - 20 min make out session at some point. I spent two nights at her place one weekend when I was visiting her but she made me sleep on the couch. =/ I know that's not a good sign...

Anyway, my plan is to keep it simple. Not call her as much, not text her as much, lay off any compliments, and when I'm with her be less touchy. Basically act more distant... polite and cordial, but distant. Thoughts?

I like the plan you need to work on your escalating skills though (there's tons of material on this site) its not good that you've haven't f-closed yet.