Hi,

I have a fuckbuddy which loves to come over to fuck ant talk. So far, so good. Unfortunately she is somehow prudish, she goes straight from kissing to fucking, I have to more or less guide her hand to even grab my dick. I think she is not beyond hope as I was able to literally hand-tame her - during the first night she even refused to be pussyfingered (but was OK with a fuck), now she loves it and gives good handjobs, even though she still has to be guided there.

As a further observation I would like to add that she doesn't like losing control, there's always a glimmer of flight reflexes in her (which is why she's no viable LTR). She's from one of these German noble families of Eastern Prussian descent that are known for a very stiff and distanced (and to my mind: unhealthy) raising of children, so I think her weirdness is not a shittest, but a quirk.

She somehow sees anything other than straight sex as something pertaining to a relationship, be it a handjob (wtf?), a blowjob or a cunnilingus. Now this is a slight turndown as I like handjobs, blowjobs and dishing out a well delivered cunnilingus and I don't want to slide into relationship terrain.

Any suggestions how I can loosen her up without getting down that slope (as much for her sake as for mine)?

She states she doesn't want a relationship?

She states that 1 pounding her pussy is okay.
2 fingering her, oral, masturbation etc "belongs to the domain of relationship and is thus problematic"

Well, that's pretty fucked up. Is she one of those pretty, slim, blue-eyed blonde girls with braids?

My advice: Just tell her everything you just wrote in the post. Communicate. It can upgrade your connection to the next level.

Well it's probably like how some prostitutes don't kiss their clients. They might let you double penetrate them with a huge dildo and kissing by comparison is an extremely simple and harmless act but to them it represents something more intimate.

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Meh. I am not sure if telling her expressis verbis that she's no LTR material because she has these weird notions is going to help my case. We've skirted the issue, me because I like the status quo and still have a GFTOW program before me. I guess she also doesn't want a formal relationship as she's still talking about her ex and how she regrets that it didn't work out.