Im talking to a few girls. One of them I really do like. I have gotten the lay, like three times. She has a lot of options and hinted at other guys she talks to.

I was talking to her a lot and am seeing the drop in sexual tension. Is it a good idea to freeze her out a bit to regain some of that mystery and tension?

If I do this while she's talking to toher guys, doesn't that make her forget me more with the freeze out? Thanks!

Freeze outs only work if she's extremely interested in you. That doesn't seem to be the case, so get her out and have sex with her again.

Agreed. Satisfy her needs and she will come running for you if you're better than what she's getting.

I disagree. You have had sex 3 times. Try freezout or jealously plotline (preferably both) and that should get her emotions going again.

Yeah I think when youve already done stuff it changes the meaning of a freeze out.

I dont want it to get stale. I think we over did it. Talking everyday.

I said I was going to call her later. She responded with a few texts and voicemails..... but it was wow such a different vibe.


At that point I started the freeze out and didnt get back to her. I havent felt the tension this low in a while.
- How long do I freeze out? (and for sure Im laying down some jealousy plotlines, Im not trying to look easy.)
- When you freeze her out, do you still talk a little bit? Or is the essence of the freeze out just to say nothing until you go into reattract phase?

Im trying to learn freeze out technique because I think with many previous girls it could have saved the situation. If she's acting cold, Im not trying to look easy.

Just because you fucked doesn't mean she values you more than the possibly 50 other guys she's fucking as well.

This freeze out isn't going to work.

I suppose talking to her all the time until we get bored of each other is a good idea? Thats how the spark is recreated?

What to do with the freeze out would depend on your relationship but I wouldn't stop talking to her completely. Just talk to her less and make her realize that you don't need her for sex. Move to attract phase again.

You have already had sex with her 3 times hence she came back for more hence she must like you somewhat. If she has had sex 3 times she is invested in you. If she is invested in you she will freak out if she thinks she is losing something / someone is taking her investment.

From what you are saying things have just gotten a bit boring/ are too easy for both of you. Freeze out in the sense that you are uninterested in her and more important things to be doing SPAM. You go with the frame that you two are just friends and really like this other girl SPAM.

Next time you see her take another girl and flirt with her in front of the original girl. Don't ever do this in a malicious way (i.e. don't make it look like ur trying to piss her off). You have just moved on to bigger and better things.

Switch it up on her. Show her you are willing to do what you need to. She will respond. Play with her response to get her where you want.

Last reply was the best reply. keep talking to her and move on.

She got options?get them yourself 2! mahn just get busy, the one thing u want to avoid is counting on one gal only let alone with this one . are u guys from same school or something?

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You asked for advice and are now getting defensive about it. It seems you had already made up your mind about what you wanted to do before you made this topic. Good luck.

Mantissa's advice was spot on. It did the trick!

What I didnt understand is why you said freeze outs only work if she's extremely interested in you? Doesn't that destroy the purpose of a freeze out?