About 2 years ago I lost my right eye to cancer, and I've been very depressed and insecure about my glass eye.I know It's pretty noticeable because whenever I meet new people they always ask if i have a lazy eye.

My main issue is that I know a huge factor in attraction is maintaining eye contact, but it's very hard because I feel like whoever i'm looking at is looking at my glass eye rather than maintaining eye contact with me.

Is this a major crutch in my game? I don't want to give up on pick up, but this is huge... I feel like I can't get any girl.

I think i just needed to vent or something, if someone has advice for me i'd greatly appreciate it.

You think that's bad? I'm Asian so you can't even see my eyes!



In all seriousness, though, any major difference you have from other people can either be a strength or a weakness depending on how you think about it, how you make yourself feel about it, and how you play that card.

Once you start to think and feel more positively about your glass eye you're going to be able to find a way to use it to your advantage instead of letting it drag you down. You just can't comprehend it right now because you've limited your perspective with negativity.

It just kills my confidence because the main things women look for are great eyes and you need to maintain good eye contact to look confident and create attraction. I've tried self hypnosis, being optimistic, accepting it, meditation to be more confident, but i'm not fooling anyone, it's being realistic. I try to act like it doesn't phase me, but literally EVERYONE i've met has asked about it and each time is like a hit on my self-esteem.

It's honestly easier said than done when you say feel positively about it. I'm really trying my best but i'm being realistic here.I'm not trying to attack your comment, I appreciate it very much. Is there any way I can turn this into an advantage?

Take a page from this awesome motherfucker's philosophy

You know, at some point you need to realize that you can't change that you've lost your eye. Morne the loss, cry about it, blame God, you're parents, your cat, whatever. When you are done with that it's time to accept that you only have one eye.

Here is a list of things I'm mad at my parents about:

- That I'm not taller
- That I am not better looking
- That I was born in the west and not NYC

Everyone has insecurities. That's normal. With you, at some point, hopefully today even, you need to accept that you only have one eye and yes people are going to stare.

Now look at it another way. On this site guys are all desperate to find something that will help them stand out, something interesting, some way to open a conversation. You have something that can show that you are alpha and really captivate people.

Imagine when people ask you if it's a lazy eye, you say, "No. It's glass. I lost it during my days as a pirate. Do you want me to take it out?" Or "No, it's glass. Do you want to touch it. It feels so cool." Or "No, it's my shooter. Wanna play marbles?" http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_n ... of_marbles

You will turn a potentially awkward situation positive, remove the tension, and make someone laugh all while showing confidence and security. This is absolute gold with women. Hell, I'd even wear a pirate patch once in a while. You could have so much fun with it, jesus man. That's solid gold baby.

Exactly. You are the one who needs to relieve the tension for the other person. This is your job. You must do it. So play it up, make it a really crazy outlandish ridiculous story, and ask them questions, have they ever touched one, would you lick it for money? Maybe tell a story about some drunk chick who took it from you at a party and hid it in her pu**y. Make them curious about it. When they become curious about it then they become curious about you. That's game.

Other people will see it as a limitation only insofar as you yourself see it as one. Live with it, we all have 'scars' whether physical and/or psychological, NOBODY is free from 'defect'. Learn to accept yourself and it won't mean squat to others - it all comes down to self-acceptance.

Dude I have a perfect solution for you. Ever heard of wearing an eye patch? Eye patch will make you look super cool like a war personnel.

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Funny, I was gonna suggest the same thing.

You should embrace your difference. It will set you apart from all the other men. If you wear an eye patch you wouldn't have to worry about anyone staring at your glass eye. You can even fabricate a DHV story to improve your game.

Still a neophyte to the game, just thought I'd chime in with my 2¢

~Ramification

Just an update. I'm starting to get over it and feel better, I think what I needed was a positive reaction from someone.
I met a really cool chick the other day at a club event at my uni. Told her within the first minute of talking something like "yeah don't worry about the eye, still recovering from a fight". She seemed really interested and kept asking me what fight so I was replied "Yeah back when in the days when I was a pirate". She got a kick out of it and I felt great.

My question is should I just bring it up like that within the first couple minutes, or just not bring it up until they ask?