| I'd try to neg her a couple of times, try to be a little cocky and funny, treat her like you would treat your little sister if you have one, Idk because it depends on the girl, if she's shy and quiet don't neg and tease as much as you would a girl who's social and flirty because she may get sick of it but do neg once or twice and be gentle verbally. If you run out of things to say or run into an awkward moment or silence don't take it like that, instead just walk away, get a drink talk with other people, I'd spend 50% of my time at the social event on her and the 50% on other friends and try to talk and hit it up with other girls, if she see's other girl's interests in you it will demonstrate higher value. Don't be a needy guy and don't try to seek her approval, but don't be a jerk or asshole either. You have to be in the middle. The key is to learn not to let this one girl worry you or constantly be the focus of your mind, I know it's easier said than done trust me but you just have to have the mindset " Yea she's a cool girl but I'm a cool guy, I have things going for me, if she likes me thats great, if not oh well I'll find other girls" If you truely have that mindset then you'll be fine and if she doesn't fall for you then you should be fine and just move on and fine another interesting girl. Also try not to pay too much attention to her because you will dry her out, like don't IM constantly and text constantly unless you are in a relationship (even then pace it out). Try to end the conversations on your note, don't let her end them. It will show that you have other things to do. Like get a drink, talk to someone else you know then return. Do spend some time talking to her though don't always have short conversations. The key is to portray confidence (having the mindset that I'm cool and I don't care what other people think) If someone says something insulting shrug it off, if you are embarresed some how, play it off. Everyone has flaws and makes mistakes so don't let other people let you down. If you have that mindset, and throw a few negs, just have a fun night, meet other people there, be social and most importantly be yourself try not to be a complete PUA because your probably not there yet, you should be fine.
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