Hey guys, this is my first post here, super excited to be part of the community. I have a tricky sounding question that may already be answered but I've never been able to find any info on it. This question deals more with people in general but I notice it seems to screw my game up, at least in my head.

I notice whenever I'm out and about that I'll look at people and whenever most people look back at me they get a wide-eyed look for a microsecond, then turn away. I'm really concerned as to why that happens. Could I be projecting too much intensity or something?

When it comes to the ladies I can tell the difference between a girl that likes me and does the above and ones that do the above and don't like me. The girls that don't like me have more of what I would call a concerned look, the other girls have more of a shy look. Heck, guys even do it.

All this drives me crazy and I've never heard anyone talk about it making me think it only happens to me. Could someone point me in the right direction on where to go to get answers?

Many thanks.

wow. not a single response?

wow.

To put it simply (when girls look at you in most settings) they have some form of attraction towards you, so don't be a pussy pick a opener and go at them

I pretty much found the answer to my own question thru trial and error.

The first thing that helped was smiling more. I thought I was smiling but then walked around one day on top of the world, head held high and grinning from ear to ear, and I noticed no one acted weird around me. It reminded me of what they say about acting, how you have to over-act in order to look normal to the audience. I've been doing this ever since this realization and it's worked wonders.

Another thing that's helped, I started noticing that I actually stared at people as I was walking. I didn't realize I did this, I just thought it was best to make eye contact and then smile to acknowledge the other person, but nope. The best thing to do is to be occupied with your own business, not worrying about the people around you, and in that process if you see someone in your perifery you can give them a smile, nod, and perhaps a pickup lol and it comes across very natural and smooth.

I've found what is best is also not to stare too much. However, when you do make eye contact, smile sure, but always make sure you hold it longer than them to show confidence. I practise it like a game in the daytime, to see who has the most balls. This may make it sound more complicated, but try and do it in a way that doesn't seem like you're literally staring.