Good afternoon Puas of the world and a good weekend. Thanks for reading the post !



Here is the thing.... i have going out with some work colleagues to get to know them....and some of them are amazingly attractive. i would say a 8, in terms of body. Thing is we go out and dance and have a smoke and thery are constatly approached by men....i dont know even what to say..... either to her, or to the guys approaching her, if i want to be alone with her, or just spooke a bit the guy out.....


The first time i saw this was i dated one of my first girlfriends some years ago and she was incredibly hot... i mean a real natural body....huge ass and huge breasts and she was very simple in terms of attitude, and i saw a lot of men approaching her, which disturbed me and left me often without reaction.....


I mean this is a sticking point of mine, dont know if everyone has passed throught this but i think you either have a to have a strong concrete inner game or a amazing attitude-philosophy of life to be constantly dealing with...... let me call them.... outside gamers!




Has anyone passed through this before, or has any ideas how to deal with this ?




Sugestions are very welcomed

didn't quite get what you were asking, are you afraid of coming off to protective/too passive with the girls u are with when they are approached by guys?

You need to master not being intimidated by beauty.

Notice I didn't say "You can't give a fuck, yo."

These concepts are two different things. Think of it like this. When a hot babe is being approached all night long by random guys, that's all they become, random guys that hit on her.

Now imagine an interesting guy that doesn't hit on her, infact doesn't even look like he notices her beauty. She starts to wonder "Why is this guy not hitting on me? What is different about him? Could he have met that many women that are hotter than me? Is he that cool??"

Once she has this question in her mind, she'll start testing you to see if you're the real deal, a real man that all the women want. And it's your job to pass these test, proving yourself as what we call an Alpha male, a man above all the rest.

So here's what you want to do generally:

Whenever you're around an HB, pretty much ignore her. Talk to everyone else EXCEPT her. You have to seem completely uninterested in her. It'll be easy for your target(The HB) to realize shes being ignored, and it won't be long until she starts to think "Am I not pretty enough?"

(Remember, the more charismatic you can be with everyone else and make it obvious how much fun you're having and shes not cause your ignoring her will double these effects, if that makes sense)

Then suddenly as if you JUST noticed her presence, you talk to her. The first thing she will think of is being delighted to be included by the center of attention/ most interesting person. Then will come the test to see if you're really all that, if you're the alpha male she is beginning thinking you might be.

And it's your job to prove that your are. You are "The Man" essentially

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Good coomments, thanks for the ideas, usefull ones indeed. Sometimes its hard to do that you know, because as work colleagues we know each other, and we are in the same set having fun and talking, even tough im talking to other random HBs around, i comeback sometimes and see guys are hitting on her. Should i ignore or not even mention that ?





What about dealing with the fact that i could have a veryhot girlfriend that is very often-frequently approached by guys....when im not close to her ? How would you deal with that ?





Ideas are very welcomed

I haven't read everything written here, but here are few pointers based on the name of this topic.

- There are now shortcuts and easy solutions here. Some will say work on your outer game, work on your inner game, join the gym, do this or do that... The truth is every positive thing you do in your life counts and brings you closer to your goal - let's assume your goal is handling hot HBs that are approached often.

-Work hard. Whatever that means. Talk to those hot girls and don't worry about the outcome and take pressure of yourself. In 100 years we are all going to be dead anyways, so who cares about the things we do... The point is you have limited amount of time, you might as well use it and enjoy the ride.

- Realize that one day you will be there if you work hard enough. From my point of view it is so much much better to deal with HBs that are approached very often is so fucking many reasons. You can always get better feedback from those girls, than from girls who are just happy that a dude approached them. When you do become a champion she will realize that much more quickly than other girls.

- I suppose your main concern is: "How do I differ myself from all those other guys approaching her?" This is a stupid mindset to have. And if you want to differ from all those other guys, than you should go into the world and succeed. Make money, work out, approach girls, do whatever makes you happy and proud of yourself.

- Until you there, work hard as hell, and enjoy the process.

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Hey Defy, great comment, thanks a lot, quite right, be proud and ignore the outcome.....



I guess most time im worried about leaving one girl alone and loosing her friendship .... you guys know what i mean ? I suposse i should say, fuck that , my friendship is a priviledge and she will have to cope with the my way of being....hitting girls.



Last question: (like a described above before) what about when i was dating a veryhot girlfriend, and men hit on her ? How should i behave ? (i wasnt very happy, but i guess it was natura, it naturally happened....)




Opinions are as....usual, very welcomed

"My friendship is a priviledge" sounds a bit like looking down on other people. Being humble is great attitude in life. If a girl is high quality girl and worth for me to keep her in my life, I would rather have her as a friend than not have her at all. I am not sure what your situation is here, but the most important thing here is from which frame are you coming here? And to come to a place where you are centered you have to have a reference experience. End friendship, have her end relationship, you end it... so next time when you find yourself in similar situation you kinda know what to expect.

I don't know why, but I always enjoyed this. Even when I was starting to learn game. I always wondered what would Style do in this situation. At the end of the day, you have to realize that there is actually nothing here that you can do, and learn to be ok with that. Girl chooses who she wants to be with, you can just give her the chance to see how amazing you are. Back in the day, I used to join their set (my gf and random dude hitting on her) and say you two look amazing together, take a pic of them together if I had a camera, saying how great they look together and some similar stupid shit that makes her feel bad. I was a fucking clown and a guy would come later to me and say "I knew you were her bf". Nowdays, I just don't care. Last time this happened I was coming from the bathroom and I see this girl (still gaming each other at the time) leaving the club with some dude and she comes to me and talk for a bit. And I just didn't care, I introduced myself to this dude (he was so fucking confused and had no idea what was going on), and I encountered her to go home with him. You can probably guess who got the girl in the end. But even if you don't get the girl, who cares? You are still you at the end of the day. You are still a fucking champion. And you still work hard towards your goals...

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