I've been seeing an older woman for 6 months. She has a boyfriend of 10 years with whom she has an open relationship. I was planning to see her on Saturday, now she's pulled out last minute due to boyfriend being at the same venue. Last time I saw her, she asked me if I'm seeing anyone else, I admitted I have ONS's, but I'm not seeing anyone else regularly. My plan now is to pursue other LTRs and keep her as a backup (since I am being treated as a backup), but I am actually considering just ending it on the basis that I deserve better than to be cancelled on last minute and since I know she has feelings for me but is scared to leave such a long term relationship with her BF. I've never let on whether I would pursue a relationship with her, because as long as she has a BF, it's not up to me to say whether I want a relationship with her or not. I honestly don't mind her having a boyfriend, I dont have time for a full time relationship, I just don't like being dicked around because of her boyfriend's plans. I fucked her in front of her BF by the way, he didnt react well. Long story. Basically their sex life is pretty much dead.

1) i really like this girl, but should i walk away?
2) Or just not care, play it cool and say "OK see you whenever then".
3) Also should I admit to her that I'm pursuing relationships elsewhere to make her jealous or not?

Hey dude, you were right, thanks for the input. She gets enough drama from her boyfriend, I should be the fun easy going laid back guy she can "escape" with.

exactly. this is what the deal is. she chose him over you because he comes before you. which he should. he is her boyfriend after all. if i were you id continue to pursue other girls. theres no reason to burn any bridges here though. keep her on the back burner, dont get needy, and be there to fuck her well when she wants it. ez game.