Alright so I've been browsing the boards, but after over thinking things, losing courage over the years, etc, etc, I finally had to set up an account on here to get some advice.

So I'm 22 years old right now. I've dated a girl for 2 weeks, but she was causing my life all kinds of drama, and it was only going down hill from there. Thats the only girl I've dated in my history. Still a Virgin etc.

Now heres a little bit about myself to give you guys a general idea, and I've read that I should probably be doing the opposite.

I'm one hell of a "nice guy". I've also been that way, and when I try to go a different route etc I find myself just going back to being that nice guy. I'm a gentleman with women. I'm also a little confused on how flirting works. There are a lot of girls that I talk to and hang out with, but I'm afraid to make a move with any of them, because most of us are friends with each other, or I'm also friends with their brother or sisters.

I was very very self concious when I was in my later teens. I realized I was overweight being 192 pounds when I was 15 - 19, but I've lost about 40 pounds and now I look much better, but I still have the low confidence with hearing women talk about guys with six packs my whole life.

Theres a girl I like right now, she is a HB8 perfect body etc. Problem is shes really close to my family and my family is also close with her sister. I don't want to create an awkward situation by hitting on her. Although I would really like to.

I'm working out more, trying to develop a nice look. Have a better attitude with things, but I know the thing I need to work on the most is my approach. I need all kinds of help with Flirting. No ones ever shown me the ropes or gave me an example of what to do. I've read a lot of threads on this forum that give me good ideas, but I don't ever find myself in the right situations to use them.


Can you guys give a Virgin / 2 weeks with a girl guy some advice on what to do, to get to that PUA level I'd like to reach?


I really appreciate any advice!

I would actually start studying social dynamics. Social dynamics cut away all the bs of physical appearance, ability to speak to women etc. Meaning, its more studying on human behavior patterns and how you can actually control how people perceive you to be.

For example: A guy at a club leaning up against a girl with his hand on the wall means he is the "attacker", the guy who is prowling for action. A guy leaned up against the wall, with a girl speaking TO HIM, now raises his value because it looks like he is being "attacked" (because he is sought after). So what do you do? You game a girl, and during the conversation you just spin her around so your back is against the wall and she is talking TO YOU. Now, you have much higher value to all the other girls in the club.

Its really easy to understand and simple. There are countless videos online and blogs about it that you'll never have to spend a penny. It'll be easy to get started here because a lot of these theories are based on facts and human behavior that those people can't control. As soon as you get a handle on how human behavior can work, and how it can be influenced, THEN you can start applying the other aspects of game.

Of course, the process is up to you in the end. But after I read up on social dynamics, it changed everything for me, in a good way.