So a month and a half ago I met a girl. After years of constantly dating girls that I wasn't interested in and being able to get anything I wanted from them, I finally found one that was the one I was looking for, everything I wanted. She seemed really into me. Txting me every day. Asking me out on dates every couple days. Following me around parties like a lost puppy. etc.

Problem is, I turned into an AFC with her. I was so concerned with doing everything right and not letting this one get away that I turned into a needy, at-your-beckon-call, thinking too hard, chump. I started thinking over my every move, my every communication with her... I wanted this one to go perfect.

Shortly thereafter she started txting less. She got more cold with me. Last weekend she tells me she feels no chemistry, never has, and never will and has no interesting in pursuing this. Has no idea why I'm even bothering to talk to her. She had turned on her bitch switch to max.

With some clever quick thinking, I diffused it somewhat. Her bitch switch got turned set back to low. She's txting me again and said she'd be open to seeing me again. No hints that she's interested in anything, but at least now she's being nice.


How do I salvage this one? She knows me too well as an AFC to just switch everything the next time I see her, but I feel like if I don't change something the next time I see her, I'm going to solidify in her mind that I'm a needy pussy.

Oh and I want to freeze her out. But I have this nagging voice in my head that says that every day I ignore her is another day that some other dude has to find her.

Go ahead and stalk her then. It will push her further away.

Ignore her now completely and don't text. She will text eventually. You're not presenting a challenge for her, she thinks you can't get another girl because you chase her too much when you get paranoid. Don't text and SHE will get paranoid you might be seeing someone else. This will equalise the balance. The solution is for YOU to go out with your buddies and have an awesome night without her. You don't need her to have a good time.

This is a bunch of bullshit. I don't even know why you would want this girl.

You are worrying your ass off about her and she could care fucking less. She thinks you aint'shit. She thinks you're nothing. Sh'e's fucking other men when she's ignoring your text. You better dust her for dick prints when you see her again. SHe's nothing but a filthy whore, a cum dumpster and a bukkake superstar. you in love with a damn porn star, hope it goes well

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Thanks guys. I honestly think thats what I needed to hear.

Hung out with her yesterday. Had a great time. Came away from it feeling really good.

Then I woke up this morning and the strangest thing happened.... I was laying there thinking "I don't even think I want this chick, I can.. and have.. done better." I think my interest in her caused me to really ignore a lot of her negative qualities. Now that I'm doing my best to not give a crap, they're all becoming blindingly obvious.

Who knows, maybe I'll give it another chance, maybe not. I sure learned a lot at least.