I'm been dedicated to my professional life so much that I lost balance between my social life and sex life...

I'm now 24 yrs and I'm in big city - Belgrade, and I want to start go out and meet girls, for relationship... but the problem is I don't know where to start, where to go, where to meet girls ?

I been reading David De Angelo, David X, Mystery Method,... I know a lot of theory but Im very low on practice, almost no practice...

So, I wanted to ask how to start and where to go out and meet girls, because in night clubs here in big city there are a lot of experience girls with witch I wouldnt have chance because they are a lot experience and Im not, ... I'm almost afraid to go alone in those clubs... and Im not so interesting in one night stands...

I was thinking for start to start with regular girls, I dont want to say normal, but normal in sence that thay dont go much and socialise, and they are not type of girl that could go on one night stand with some men, something like me, some regular girls...?

Should I start with shy and not so social girls like me, but where to find them?

Is here any users that are in Belgrade?

This forum is like brain dead!

Theres nobody here...

I've seen a few of your posts, they ramble. Perhaps that is why no one has reacted with any help within the first 24 hours, and calling people brain dead will certainly not help. But because I have a special weakness for social misfits, I will offer you some advice:
I do not think this is your problem at all, I think your problems are: 1) low self-esteem, 2) little social skills, 3) few friends, 4) looking in the wrong place.
1. You do not appear to have a high self-esteem. Find out who you are, and what is great about you. For example, considering you invested so much time in your job, you might be dedicated, responsible, independent, eager to learn, etc.
2. You mention you have almost no practice with talking to girls. I'm guessing you have little experience with talking to guys too. Becoming a good conversationalist takes the right attitude and practice. The two key elements in a conversation are listening and sharing (of emotions, stories, experiences, etc.). Read up on that and practice!
3. Having more friends is both a consequence and a cause of points one and two. Friends will raise your self-esteem and improve your social skills, but having a high self-esteem and improving your social skills will also give you more friends (or acquaintances at least).
4. Clubs are a great way to meet people and have fun. They are not so great to start relationships. You want a relationship, try online dating or meeting new people through friends.

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One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.

Thanks...


Ok, I approached 3 girls this day!

First girl wasnt interesting in me.

Second was in a hurry, just reason to blow me off...

Third gave me facebook. I approached, I had body anguage like I was leaving... i open her with indirect and neutral subject/opener, secon I introduce me - my, her name, and then I asked where is she goind, what is she doing and so on.. about 15 minute.. and then what I did! I did like Neil Strauss...I say seee you later and she turnd and start walking .. and I stoped her and say do you want to stay in touch, and she say yes...


I guess, its not so hard but its really uncomfortable because of app anxeity!

Men lets be hones here, All I want is sex... its looks so f hard to do all this procedure and you at the end dont know will you get sex and is that sex is going to be good... Sometimes i wish just to go to prostitute...but I will not go, and I didnt ever go...

Don't get abusive.

I got my first BJ by attending an archery club. That's right, archery. People always laugh and take the piss when I tell them that story. But there's nothing better than meeting girls through more regular interests. Meeting girls out at pubs and clubs is fine and can be a laugh but the connection isn't always as strong. Find a shared interest and you have an endless basis for rapport.

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If something's not fun, it's not worth doing

You're welcome. You would be even more welcome if you also did something with the advice.
This seems kind of contradictory to me. Are you looking for love or just for sex?

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One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.

Thanks for advice, I will work on that what you'r saying (sorry bad english...).

@Timo, here is the thing, I was with one girl and we make out for month and 15 days and there was no sex.. so, I wanted relationship with that girl whit witch I had good sence of humor and understanding.. but she was high maintance and very social inteligent, biger then me... and there is no sex...


NOW i have MORAL QUESTION, I want not only talking but sex too.. sex more then talk... so I want girl for sex but stable sex, because I have problem finding it talk and sex in the same time, and im sexualy very very unexperienced... if you understand... So i have this topic :

moral-question-please-vt158244.html

take a look.