So I have an imminent meet up with a real hotty that I know, but haven't seen for a good 9 months, planned for tomorrow night. This girl is a definite 9 and has shown a lot of interest in me. And has told a buddy of mine (in confidence of course, lol) that she sees me as a potential boyfriend. She used to live in my town, and has recently moved away, but is thinking of returning as she doesn't like the new place she lives in.

So she started texting me a while back and it's all been great over text, a few phone calls and a couple of SPAM chats in the last week. She told me last weekend that she is coming back to my town this weekend (tomorrow) and she would like to see me. I gave the usual; "I'm probably going to be a bit busy, but I might be able to fit you in somewhere." She asked about Friday and Saturday night, and I said I'd get back to her. She even moved meeting her best friend so that she could possibly see me on Saturday afternoon! And also told me she was jealous of the recent attentions I have been getting from hot girls over facebook.

So I say I'll let her know by tonight, when I will be available to see her. I texted "Hey you, I'll see you Friday night. We're also having a party on Saturday night at my place for my friends leaving do, which you can come along to as well." (My buddy/housemate (the one she told that she likes me) is leaving to go overseas, he is a mutual friend of us both and she would have been invited anyway.)

At this point she replies; "I think me and Orbiter #1 are coming to your flat anyway for (my buddys) party, or is that just Saturday? x x x"

I reply; "Mainly Saturday for the party, I'll text you later, I'm off to the gym now. x x x"

Her reply "Okie dokey, let me know X"

My question; what the hell is going on here? And how do I play it?

Now I know Orbiter #1 is very interested in fucking her and has tried already last summer and got (I think) turned down. But he is quite savvy and not too short of a bit of game himself. He's no PUA scholar, just a little bit of a natural. I know if I'm on my game I can out Alpha him. But what I want to know is, what are her motives behind this? She likes his attentions, but has expressed in no uncertain terms her desire for me, to my buddy. What is going on, I'm not sure how to read this...

I don't see anything you are doing is wrong so far.. Maybe acting a bit hard to get but it's no big deal. It builds attraction for the time being.. Whenever you meet her, your key is to escalate. Slowly from soft touching to eventually kissing her and getting a lay eventually, or making your girlfriend. If she was flirting with other guys at the party, don't show you are affected and just game other girls around! Even if you are just being friendly to the girls there and they are hugging you and smiling around you that should be enough.. Unless she is very close to you when doing it she wouldn't know they are smiling to you and being responsive because you are just being nice..

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How do you read this?

Anyway you want that makes you feel confident. No point in trying to get in her head and decipher her intentions.

Here is the question -

What do you want?
You want this girl as your girlfriend, a quick lay, an f buddy?

See, the way you answer that question is what will serve as your compass, man.

I see it that she is into you and and wants to feel things out. The friend isn't a threat unless you create him into one. Meaning, worrying about 'out-alpha' ing him. Be cool, show him and her respect, have a good time and move forward as she wants 'something' from you.

Floson

I guess I see her as a potential girlfriend, I have every intention of being a proper host and the life of the party on Saturday, to make sure my buddy has a good send off. But I would kind of like to see her alone on Friday first, to gague it/her for myself.
The thing I don't quote get about myself right now is why I'm giving a fuck about this situation. Normally I don't see any other guy as a threat if I'm going for a girl. But it feels as though, because she has showed interest in me first, it's like I'm afraid to lose what I don't yet have. It's weirding me out...

Right, so check this out - what is the fear here?

You might lose her and miss your chance.

Face the fear now. She might end up going home with her friend at the end of the night and the two of you may never have another chance to hit it off. Big deal man. They'll be another.

Face it now before that night comes, so the fear doesn't chase you into solitude.

call a buddy over and let him have the friend

From what I understood, she's trying to bring her friend to the party.
It's pretty natural to show up to parties with friends. There's a bunch of reasons for that,
And most of them have nothing to do with you.

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