Original Story I typed up 8 days ago:

I need some advise, met this girl about 3 months ago, we had an amazing connection which I've never had with someone friend or more. We have been basically **** buddies/friends and taking things slow because neither of us wanna rush into a relationship.

We spent nearly every day together for the first month then realised it was way too much so had a bit more time apart which is when things got even better. We spent a week apart when she went away and she missed me like crazy. We had a good chat and decided we would like more but again we're not gonna rush it. 5 days ago we went away for the weekend, spent 5hrs straight in the car talking about us and she said countless amount of nice things. Met her family that weekend and she seemed fine, her family is going through a lot so she keep sneaking kisses etc when she could.

So everything still seemed great 2 days ago, seen her last night and could tell something was off, we were both very tired though. Talked to her today and she said she only wanted to be friends and doesn't see me in the relationship way.. I can't understand how this all changes over night basically.

I know there's no other guy involved, and she did say from the start she wasn't ready for a relationship but she said all that stuff 5 days ago..

Updated:
In the past 8 days I've seen her once for about a 30minute lunch thing, everything went well and neither of us spoke about anything that'd happened, since we did only have 30 mins. We spoken via text message every day but only 2-4 texts each per day when before that it was a lot more. I've been trying to give her some space and have only text her initially once, all the other times it's been from her doing.
We had planned to goto a music festival together about 2 months ago and she told me last night she still wanted to go there with me.

I need some advice on where to go from here.

These are my thoughts, I can;
Try to be even more absent
Try to say something like "so when are we going to create some mischief together again stranger" - showing I'm not happy with how much we've seen each other and if I get to see her then I can create that spark we have again.

Either way some of you guys are very good at this side of things, so please give me as much advice as possible, I'm new to this side of things. I'm better at creating the attraction and with this one I think we got too close too soon and that's why she has gotten scared and done a full 180.

Well there's a few paths you can take. Get her drunk. get her jealous and or get her thinking that there is something wrong with her.

booze speaks for its self.

Start talking about other girls with her and or have her see you flirting with women.

Tell her that you like her as a friend and that you were attractive to her but things are nice now. Beat her to the fucken punch. She will want what she cant have.

I would pick door number 2.

Being sexual or aggressive will only push her father away and you don't want to swim up stream trying to convince her that she should drop panties again. I would see if another girl wants to tag along to the music festival with you and this girl.

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Why guys and girls don't mesh.

"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

Yeah I plan to go with the friendzone her faster route, but how exactly do I act around her to show that? I'm going to see her tomorrow..

Yeah no do not friendzone her. Thats the kiss of death. You will be better off being a dick and pushing your cock down her mouth then trying to sneak it in and by being a nice guy.

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Why guys and girls don't mesh.

"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

Well now you've confused me from your last two posts..

Care to be more specific in how I act around her..?

Make it seem like you don't care for her and that she hold no value to you. This will raise your value and make it so she is trying to qualified for your attention. I am sorry I confused you. What you need to do is make it look like she hold no cards in your attention. By saying yeah your ok and lets just be friends will make her wonder why you don't pan for her. So do not be all buddy buddy with her. Best way to act around her is to tease her like shes your little sister. But do not do things for her that you would think she would like. Dont buy her things dont tell her she looks nice dont do her favors. Do neg her. Do act nonchalant towards her. Be sexual but mostly with other girls in front of her. Show her that she holds no cards in your game. This will make her want to be dealt in to the next hand.

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Why guys and girls don't mesh.

"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

I'm onto it mate, yesterday for example I said something I wouldn't normally say to her (nothing horrible) because she annoyed me.. 5mins later she's appoligizing and asking if she can call me soon, when before that it didnt seem like she wanted to talk at all. She had to go out and ended up calling me later so I didnt answer or reply to her goodnight message.. Spoke to her today but she's trying to play the game as well. I just have to play it better. I do think ive got a chance, whether its true or not but since we've hooked up heaps of time before and now she's trying to make me chase, even trying to make me a little jealous, I dont see why she'd do that if she only seen me as friends and nothing else.. Also it does seem like I'll be able to make her jealous and it was good to see her worried reaction when I all of a sudden changed my tone. All this isn't rwally me though so its a matter of whether I can keep it up long enough for it to work. I did feel like an asshole not ringing her back or replying but I know its what I've gotta do both if I want a chance and if not for my pride atleast. Shes been distant with me and I know how it makes me feel so I've gotta do the same to her I feel if I want things to change.

Need some more advice.. Please !

I think I've played it perfectly so far. Quick update - Seen her on the weekend, she was upset at the start and she was cuddling me/laying in my lap (with her head on my D), went out had an awesome day, flirted around with her, made sure I checked out a few other girls, had a few check me out etc. Gave it a few days and seen her again tonight, got her to cook me dinner, she gave me a few cuddles and kisses on the neck, but her housemates were around so that was about all that could happen.. She complimented me on being bigger (I'm a bit of a gym junkie and have put more size on since not seeing her), and had a massive smile on her face while she delivered it for a few seconds after (like most girls I guess, she likes bigger guys). She was grumpy when I first seen her, and she said about 10mins later sorry for being a bitch, I dunno if it was a good thing to say or not but I kinda half joked saying "what tonight or the last two weeks?" since she had almost ignored me and been a bitch.

Anyway, she started talking to me on FB chat tonight, asking if I was at home or out, asking who this girl was who had liked all my status's lately. I dodged the first question saying "I would tell you but then I'd have to kill you" and the second by teasing her about stalking me, but she kept persisting and I ended up saying "must be a secret admirer". So she's been looking on my FB enough to see that the same girl liked all my status's, then she went to the effort of checking out the girl. I went to tell her I'm getting off FB to leave her wondering sort of thing and she tells me at the end "p.s. be careful about how old your admirer is". I hadn't noticed but she's only 17, I don't even remember adding her. Long story short from that chat I found out she is very curious who this girl is, she has been stalking my page, and even went to the effort to stalk this girl.

Does someone who only likes you as a friend, and nothing more go through all this effort?

How should I handle it from here?

I'm glad I said secret admirer in the end, especially finding out that she was 17, could have majorly backfired. I bascially kept her wondering as much as possible, which I thought was the best idea..

The plan is to see her in about 4 days before she goes away for the weekend to see her family. Trying to just give her small tastes of me since everything is going so well and then let her miss me for atleast a few days before seeing her again.

Sounds like its going good. I would make it a bit more sexual. Also remember she a dirty little animal that wants to fuck. If you don't give it to her some one else will. More kissing when she cuddles you and kisses your neck go in then lead her to your or her bedroom. Undress her and make sure she gets off first.

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Why guys and girls don't mesh.

"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1