So over the last couple weeks I've established an interest in a co-worker who is two years older than me. I talked with her on and off for the last month, as she's a nurse at the facility I work at and I only see her when she's assigned to my area.

Anyway on Valentines day I decided to quit debating getting to know her more, and got her some flowers. She accepted them when I saw her that night and seemed happy, and sat to visit with me for a while before I went back to my post. I saw her again a couple of days ago and succeeded in getting her number then. I was a bit nervous and she seemed to recognize it, but just said "Don't worry, I'm not good at these things either" before mentioning she would look forward to my texts.

Oh yeah, the girl I'm talking about is 25 and fairly attractive, and friendly but sticks to herself more.

Here's the thing; due to a condition I have about zero social intuition inherently, and everything I know has been learned through hard work. So, while I feel like she might be interested, I can't really tell. I'm not sure what to do next.

We ended up texting for an hour or so the night I got her number, the night before last, and it seemed a bit slow and aimless at times, but it kept up and ended on an OK note (single smiley). I want to see if she wants to join me this weekend for something, but am not sure if thats too soon.

In the past I've been way too hasty and ruined my opportunities, but given I actually like this girl, I'm being more patient and I didn't text her at all yesterday. What I'm stumped on is when to text her again, or if I should just ask her out, whether I should call or see her to do that, etc. I've read a lot that women need to feel engaged so it's a good idea to make contact frequently, while other sources say to not do this.

Thanks all, and my bad for the wall of text! ><

What do you want with her?

I'm assuming its to get to know her more and see if it could go further.

So, make a decision man. Stop thinking there is a right move and just make a move. It doesn't matter if you fail. In fact you should be shooting for it. This mentality will give you a bit more freedom to relax and be comfortable with whatever happens. And when you're comfortable, you get access to authenticity within yourself.

Thinking about all this shit too much just fucks you up. There are no rules. You make them and you stand behind them no matter what happens.

Indeed, I know I'm thinking way too much about this; timing is what I have trouble with, but I suppose I won't know until I try.

Update: She had a second and third text chat with me, two of which she initiated. Things seem to be going well, as over the last few days I have been more comfortable and true to myself, and shelf my fear of rejection.

However, I don't wanna be reckless about asking her out. We both have the same days off (Saturday and Sunday) and, so I was wondering if asking to hang out next weekend would be too long, and when I should do it?

As I mentioned, I have trouble with things like timing. So generally, what is the guideline for texts sent per day, and what are some ques that things are going good?

Thanks all, I appreciate your time.

Dude you are over analyzing things. Dont worry too much about "omg how much this or when should I that". Just ask her out, if she says yes she likes you if she says no she doesn't. Don't hide your intentions when you ask her out either, make it clear that its out for a DATE. You shouldn't be wasting too much energy on texting.

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