For some reason this is my big sticking point at the moment, and it's insane. Call me big headed if you want but I believe with all of my heart that I am smarter, funnier, nicer, more attractive, more athletic and more
Ambitious than 9/10 guys Basically I don't have one feature that trumps all the others but they are all pretty solid. I never say this sort of thing to people in real life though so don't think my problem is that I'm a cocky asshole.
I am constantly catching girls check me out and every girl I'm friends with or have slept with/dated adore(s) me.

But, ever since high school I have put the pussy on a pedastal, and now, although I feel like I deserve pussy more than most guys, I still feel as though I don't deserve it. How do I change this? I have no problem approaching or making intent clear but I always discredit myself or don't follow through because of this sticking point.

Any help would be much appreciated.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

This will be a short answer but i think you already know what i'm about to tell you.

You need to push yourself out of the comforts zone. Next time you hit it off with a girl you like, go for the kiss. First time i did this, it was mindblowing. Right after that i felt on the top of the world, like i can get anything I want. After some time, the effect wears off and you need to start from begining, if you stop doing it.

It gets a bit better but not much.

All my life i've been some kind of dorky guy (even though things started getting better after 15). Now at my 21, being realistic, i'm awesome. Own a car, have an overpayed job, still studying, doing things i like, traveling, have waitresess paying for my coffee, even some border flirting with bit older married women. Compare that to my friends who have to choose between buying cigarettes or coffee i'd say i'm doing fine. I'm the leader of the group, even if I've just meet it.

And, still i feel like i'm that old me. Alone, with no ability to talk with others, let alone girls. And even when a few days ago HB told me "I never met a person who is so talkative and funny like you" i couldn't accept that.

So forget about "deserving" women. It doesn't matter if you deserve her or not. All you need to do is be interesting, and have some balls to risk it. Try it, and if you can get it, then she thinks you deserve it. Thats all it takes. If you do it right and she says no, then SHE doesn't deserve YOU!

Good luck!

This is a subject that also affects me and Mago812, that's some good advice that has helped me understand my myself more. I usually have those days where I would feel like I am not worthy or deserve anything. I'm usually optimistic about everything and try to avoid anything that is negative and can bring my mood down. Lately it has been happening quite often and I'm not sure why this is happening. It has affected my game drastically but not my social life. I'm a very sociable person, every time i'm in college either on my lunch brake I will at least talk to one person on my way to the canteen so I have no idea where the core of this problem is and how it is influencing me to be negative.

But as Mago812 said. Forget about wether you ''deserve'' them or not,. Be thankful for the position you are currently in now (which i'm sure you are) and think optimistic thoughts such as;

''I'm in a great position with my life. A position I have earned through hard work and I am much better off than most people.''

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Yours sincere
JimJam

If you hesitate, you masturbate.

Ok guys I have something I want you to try out an get back to me on to see if you have similar results.
Today I was walking around the mall and I decided to do something different. Normally when I'm in a public place I'm using hawk like vision to try and look for babes as most guys do I think, but I realised that my point of reference against myself is now almost exclusively hot women.
How can I not put them on a pedastal?
So today I made sure I analysed everyone I passed as much as I normally do an attractive woman men, women, old, young, attractive, ugly, happy sad etc etc and something crazy happened. My mood and self esteem shot through the roof. I was beaming a smile from ear to ear as though I had actually managed to get laid because by analysing everyone and not just women I now see where I fit in, in the big picture.

Compare yourself to everyone you pass, not just babes and guys who are more alpha than you (that's what I have been doing for as long as I can remember, probably back when I found my first pube). Thanks for the advice guys, I will incorporate your thoughts into my daily routine, try this out though and tell me if you are as astounded as I am.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

Sorry for the late answer. I actually don't overanalyse people passing around because it leads to only one thing. I usually do that when i'm in the bad mood, and then i start thinking "All this low-quality people have something going on in their life while i'm going to bed, alone, just to wake up to a crappy new day."

Lately, my mindset is changing to really not giving a fuck. Which, as awesome as it may sound, is scarry, because nothing matters. You dont get the negative buzz as much, but it's the same with the good stuff. So I'm still figuring this part out.