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Ok, so. I am not much of a pick up artist. I used to rely on girls that initiated "friendships" with me but then I went on a 3 year spell of depression and getting out of shape and basically was MIA with the females for a while. Spent the last year or so getting in shape and fixing my life back up to where I am feeling really good again. Women have slowly started to notice me again. I am in college...
There is a 8/10 in my classes who I know somewhat well. We have 3 or 4 classes together and I talk to her on a daily basis but it has always been 80% about school. So last weekend I was at a bar minding my own business and she came up and started talking to me for about 20 minutes. Kind of got me wondering if she was interested... Bought her a shot then me and my buddies left for another bar on our usual agenda for friday nights. I'm at the next bar and she comes up again and talks to me there too. Didn't talk to her again that night.
This is probably where I did a no-no, but I basically emailed her when I was shit faced (had the address from a class) and gave her my number said she should text me sometime, and next morning I woke up to a text. Texted her saturday night, but we never met up. Then this week, I've talked to her after class a while but again 80% about school. Text her too, but it's about 50% about school and usually I initiate the conversation. Most of the time she only texts back when she is replying to mine.
I'm just wondering what to do now. It is one of those situations where I honestly don't know if she is interested me enough to "escalate" the conversation and if I do what should I say? Or should I just only talk to her about school, and then later on straight up say "You should go to the bars with me Friday =) " ?
I figured when she came up to me twice at the bars last weekend, that was a good sign she might be interested, but then this week it is like it never happened.
1. the fact that she texted you after getting your number means it was not a "no-no".
2. stop texting her so much about school, and stop having "conversations" over text. Only text her if you are going to invite her to do something.
3. if you invite her, don't phrase it like that. say something like "what are you doing on Friday? my buddy Tom and I are going to ABCD bar" or something..
4. maybe she's playing hard to get this week? or maybe she's thinking, i came up to him, why doesn't he come up to me?
hope this helped!
CHAT