I'm at the point where i think it would be better to ignore the girls who text me, and especially not be the first to text them.

I just can't seem to increase interest over the phone, and i actually feel like I'm either plateauing or making less attraction.

I understand building attraction, I feel like I'm better doing it in person where I can DHV easier, where my body language and tonality are relatively good, but can't seem to do the same over the phone, even on calls where tonality is at work, I'm better on calls though.

So I'm at the point, should i say I don't have time to answer texting, or some reason i can't text, and only accept calls. or is there more sources i can use to improve my texting relatively quick, or at least where i can notice some improvement within small intervals so i can keep motivation towards it.

If i didn't answer texting I feel like women would be more open towards hanging out with me because they can't get to talk to me as often, kind of like wanting what you can't have effect.

I mean just give me ideas, cause i used to be really good with phone game, till I lost confidence on it cause of constant failings.

Recently I've been working on getting a woman to feel a good way when they text me, like make them miss me or like I that they think something i said was sweet, then just not answer them.



Just fyi on my thoughts:
if they seem like they are being rude or ignorant towards me I've just said bye or something just cause really I've noticed the best way to get what you want isn't to punish them or get personally mad, but to advert your attention from them, cause really if they are attracted to you the thing they want most is probably your attention

I totally understand where you're coming from. I think texting is almost more difficult because you have time to gather your thoughts, whereas a phone call is reaction-based.

It would be nice to get an example of how you interact via text, but thinking about these should give you a good mindframe:

- Be straight forward in general. Come across as a decision maker, not a guy asking for a date or attention.
- Match her tone. If she's pretty subdued in her texts (no smileys etc.) then you definitely should not be sending a bunch of hearts and LOLs.
- Be funny. Easier said than done I know, but sometimes its just sending them a funny meme or picture with no commentary. Just let them look at it and laugh/comment. Create a situation where you both send each other ridiculous pictures/memes/lolcatz whatever it is. This creates a connection without having to talk too much, just appreciate each others sense of humor.
- Don't overcompensate. If you feel like you are fishing for more interaction with her ("soooo, how has your day been?"), then you probably are.

And my favorite...pick up the damn phone sometimes.

There are certain advantages and disadvantages with all of the new forms of communication. The texting suits people that may not work well on the fly or in person. It's like how DJing became a popular hobby for every music enthusiast and their mom...but if you tell them to use analog records instead of auto-mix software, they get exposed.

So fuck it, sometimes you just have to surprise people with a call. Bring them into your world once in a while to show your phone confidence. Just say, "Hey, can't text for a while so thought I'd give you a call." Then do your thing.
I agree here, but withholding information can be construed as "boring conversation." Especially at this day and age. I'd assume you have something in common with certain girls you meet (music, sports etc.), so find that common thread and have a fun convo.

If you get super watered down replies, its a "She's just not that into you" moment. Move on.

I know it was super long and probably convoluted but hope it helps man!

Well yeah i'll give you some of the conversations i've had in the past acouple days.
(first is taylor we already had sex, i was just messing with her cause i like the attention cause she gets needy)

Me: Um taylor, i kind of need to tell you something.
Her: Mattie ! ))) I've missed you! what ?:)
(I don't answer for 30 minutes calls me once)
Her:call me (calls me again)
Her:Mattttt!!!!!!!
Me: I'll call you later
Her: Promise????
Her: I can't wait till later I have to sleep in 10 minutes cause i've got work early in the morning!!
Her: matt call me!
(next morning)
Her: I love how you keep lying, saying you're gonna call me and never do. cool matt.
Me: My phone died and i just got home.
Her: tell me what you were gonna tell me.
Me: I miss you (LOL this made me crack up)
Her: then why'd you say it awkwardly last night, like Uhm, i got to tell you something.
Me: What I'm not allowed to be awkward over text?
her: matt :/

(maddie- we've been sexual a lot maybe a year ago, but kind of trying to get her to hangout with me again, barely working at all)
Me: Oh yeah did you know i was buying a crotch rocket.
Her: why
Me: cause i can? plus would be sick.
Her: your lame.
Me: you're lame and boring..
Her: you don't mean it
Me: Yeah, you never want to do anything and if there is something intereseting you won't go if you don't know everything thats guna happen.
Her: Cause that's how i am.. i am sorry
Me: No. that's how you make yourself. I bet you'd enjoy life more if you got out of that.
Her: well you're right you got me there.
Me: I know.
Her: Im just nervous
Me: why
Her: Idk i just am
Me: Does anything bad ever happen when we hangout? no.
Her: i guess not.
Me: Yeah, i know you like when we hangout..
Her: do you know?
Me: yeah.

(next is michelle, kind of depressing)
Her: Whatcha doing tonight?
Me: Why?
Her: I was just seeing what you were doing?
Me:If you want to hangout, you can ask me directly, or you don't have a chance.
Her: fine then, nvm.
Me: Like you want to be my friend, you want to hangout, but you're afraid for no reason.
(acouple hours later, i was already hanging out with 2 friends)
Her: Lets hang out tonight.
(she called me like 5 times within an hour cause i didn't answer, then my friend whos a girl picked up and said hey. then she hung up)
(2 days later)
Me: You can come over today.
(accouple hours later)
Me: Kay bye.

(My friend Morgan, Who i can't get to hangout with for shit..)
Me: what are you getting me for valentines?
Her: that's irrelevant, what are you getting me for valentines.
Me: Probably some shitty flower and a card with cunt written on it (she's the type of girl who jokes a shit ton.)
Her: Sounds perfect
Me: am i getting laid or what?
(i put this online so other people could see it, with her tagged in it, so she thought that was hilarious, but i still can't get her to hangout with me.)

(this girl ashley, I've already been 3rd base and shit with her but, she's had a boyfriend the whole time so she feels really bad she cheated on him, i normally wouldn't do stuff with a girl with a boyfriend but she's just so god damn good looking.)
Me: hey what are you getting me for valentines day?
Her: Uhmmmm nuffin haha.
Me: A muffin?
Her:No NUFFIN haha.
Me: No the muffin idea sounds better. Do that.
Her: haha nope.
Me: wow bye were not friends.
Her: Haha matt.
Me: we really aren't anymore, you are always mean.
Her: I was kidding:/
Me: were you?
Her: happy valentines day matthew.
Me: you too, i expect a muffin next time we see eachother.
(No muffin :/)