What is the best way to get rid of oneitis with a girl i have to see 5 days a week?? This girl is in a school program with me and i need to see her 5 days a week in class and clinical (she is my lab partner too). She recently broke up with her bf a couple months ago. I swooped in against my better judgement. After hanging out with each other daily (she did tell me she wanted to stay single as she wasn't over her ex) she ended up going out on a date with this dude about a week ago and has gone on several more since then. My feelings have messed me up and i let jealousy roll in. We still hang out but it is not as frequent. As of now she wants to get together valentines day still.. I need to get my head straight, what can i do to drop the feelings im having for her. Its tough cause i need to see her and interact with her almost every day.

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Rip

Sounds like a shitty situation, bro.

So let me get this straight: She broke up with her man, you swooped in, she wasn't really feelin it and said she wants to be single, yet she goes on dates with some dude (I'm assuming you know this guy)....yet still is going to spend Valentines with you?

Here is a good time to really start your alpha-male coming-out party. Looks to me like you are the insurance guy she can always go to...while she scopes out a better alternative. If you keep playing this role, its just gonna tear you up.

Start changing how you interact with her. Ignore her sometimes, chat her up sometimes, keep her on her toes. Once she starts interacting with YOU differently (asking if you are ok etc.), then you've successfully taken the ball into your own court. THEN you can do whatever you want (this is assuming she has some attraction towards you). If there is no difference, she's a waste of your fucking time anyways and you should kill the idea that you are the "safe/nice" guy until she finds a man she wants.

Take back those balls!

Thanks RiRi, since my post I've learned she has been seeing this guy regularly ever since their initial meeting. When I lost all respect for myself and went into bitch mode and ask her questions she would tell me it wasn't anything serious and shes just going with the flow.. Thankfully over the past couple days i have regained my man hood and have been able for the most part to act like i can care less about the situation. I decided to freeze her out for a few days over the weekend until i have to see her again monday. After not talking to her after we had class friday morning she sends me a very excited "hii!!" i did respond after some time and sent 3 short replies back.(which i know i shouldn't have) I have not had contact with her since.. I have come to find out that she and one of the girls in class ive known for a while said they are going out as a "group" with there guys and that the girl im talking to will probably spend the night at her place which bothered me of course but I did not show it in the text when i was told about it(i didn't ask for this information). This is petty but i did notice she changed her profile pic to the one she knows is my favorite... Just wondering if that's any indication of a sign i would see if its bothering her? Am I just wasting my time or is there another way i should go about it? She seems pretty into this guy as i was pretty much thrown on the back burner. I guess I don't have to worry about valentines day anymore lol...

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Rip

You're almost there man.

You saw what happened when you switched it up a little bit, you got her to text YOU instead of the other way around.

So, great job. Problem is, she sucked you back into her world of narcissistic BS.
I think replying is ok here. 3 short replies is totally cool as long as you keep your control...you dont want to start chasing her AFTER she texted YOU. You know what i mean?
You gut feeling on this is absolutely correct. She is loving the attention but will always go back to that other guy. If you get sucked back in her world, you are going to get your manhood fully ripped away from you.

It's time to move on bud!