Ok so last night I was doing pretty ok, I was in state, at a club I go to almost every Friday, had a female friend meet up with me, several other friends, one of whom birthday it was, and several of the waitresses at this club actually know me as a regular so they're starting to legitimately flirt with me (I made plans with one for Monday). Also, I was wearing a bow tie, which at this particular place made me quite popular.

Anyway, I'm in a great mood, doing well, and I hit on the girl who was probably the hottest in the place. She's EXACTLY what I am looking for physically. She's also an ICU nurse, which means she is pretty legit when it comes to profession too.

We get along well, I get her number, I promise to show her birthday boy if I see him. Apparently they left though and went to another bar.

Me and her are texting back and forth in the club, having fun, making fun of each other, so I'm doing well with her.

I go back up to her, and start talking, and I'm doing ok, and out of nowhere, a muscular, taller guy comes up and starts talking to her. At first I think it's her boyfriend or he knows her. I think he asked her if she needed to be saved or something.

She goes with him, before I can realize that they don't actually know each other.

He holds her for the rest of the night that she's there. She leaves and says good bye to me as she goes (I was sorta near the door she left through though).


How do I prevent situations like that occurring? Do I just build more attraction, or is there a specific way to note or do something about this issue? I suspect the hotter the girl (and I'm graduating to hotter and hotter girls every week) the more of an issue this will be.

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That's tough. But in clubs, you're allowed to be more aggressive than usual. I don't mean in the sense of kicking people's asses. I mean that in the sense of escalating physically. If you're sitting at a restaurant with a girl, would you expect a guy to come over and kick you out of your seat to be with her? No. Because guys would know she's likely well taken.

But in a club, it's a different playground, and different rules apply. Unless she has a boyfriend, guys won't bother her if she's already grinding and dancing with you. But if you're just there chilling and talking to her, guys can barge in and AMOG you. It's also a lot more challenging since it's harder to hear the conversation. So my advice to you is to escalate much faster. You can and should be making out with the girl within an hour. That's your way of branding your women so guys won't approach her. If you leave her for a few minutes and come back to her talking to some guys, just go in and kiss her again -- this will effectively tell them to fuck off.

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