so this past weekend i took this freshman, im a junior, to a date party. we had only made out very briefly a night before that. we made out all during the party and i asked her if she wanted to come back to my place and she said yea but were not having sex and i said who said anything about sex? we make out for a while in my bed and eventually i get her horny enough and we fuck. afterwards she says she thinks im a player and asks how many girls ive slept with, i told her 2, she laughed, i then said 54 and she said uh huh, i said 9 and she said ok, then we dropped it, talked for a little, then fell asleep.

the next morning she was acting kind of shy for lack of a better word. not really wanting to kiss me much, wasnt cuddling up on me as much etc. i got up pretty early in the morning, asked her if she had a good time last night, she said yes, kissed her, then left.

the night after i texted her asking her if she was going out, she told me she wasnt. i asked her why, and she never responded. i really like this girl, she is SMOKIN hot, the sex was awesome, and she is really fun to party with. i havent texted her and wont until friday, but any ideas on whats going on in this girls head?

Sounds to me, even from your perspective, that you came off a massive player.

She probably already was looking at you as somewhat of a player but was hoping in the end that you weren't that type. You like her right? You'll have to show a few different dimensions of yourself so you can shed the fuck-and-go-guy label.

And this is all great news, man. The attraction is already there (she slept with you even after telling you it aint gonna happen), she is just looking for a reason to be with you...and the reason will most definitely be "because he seems like a player but he actually isn't."

Is that what you're hoping she thinks? Or are you just tryin to smash?

Who cares how some 15 or 18 y/o freshman thinks? Girls that age have no rational understanding of sex or relationships. She goes back to your house after telling you she doesn't want to have sex, knowing that you want to have sex with her, then she has sex with you. Yea, I'll bet she wakes up the next morning with some cognitive dissonance because that is all one big contradiciton.

Let's face it, girls who have sex that young either already are, or are well on their way to being sluts. And there's always that blow to the psyche when realizing that this is what you are or becoming. Eventually she won't care and she'll be sleeping with one player after another. But right now she is still clinging to the notion that she is still a good girl and not just some slam piece. One way she can help fortify that belief is to leave you hanging since she feels guilty about putting out. That's why she didn't text you back.

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i was thinking this was pretty much the exact case, how do you think i should play this going forward?

You just have to play the goofy little drama games that kids in that age bracket play. That is IF she is even willing to talk to you again. A lot of girls will fuck a guy and then ignore him forever and try to pretend like it never happened, thus rinsing her mind and body clean of you (figuratively speaking of course).

If she does talk to you again, you'll just try to be normal but she'll have an attitude more than likely and start saying how "she's not that type of girl" and that "you and her shouldn't have had sex" and that "all guys like you want is sex". Then you'll be in this awkward defensive position, trying to rationalize with her yet still trying to sleep with her again, meanwhile she is giving you non-stop attitude and drama over something as natural and simplistic as copulation. But again, younger girls don't really know how to relate to men or sexuality, so they revert to this immature drama crap and overcomplicate everything.

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so in this case do you think having sex with her was ultimately the cause of me not having more sex with her? weird to think about it like that haha.

and just for the record, shes 18 and im 20, but i can tell shes pretty inexperienced in bed, goddamn freshman