Hi, my name is Schecter and I am a senior in highschool that got into the "game" about 3 months ago.
I was reading books such as "The Game" and "Tao of Badass" as well as collecting a lot of information and making my own notes in my own document. So the first two months, I have basically read books, watch videos on youtube on god PUA's like Mystery, Styles, Vince, SashaPUA, Adam Lyons etc...but the thing is I haven't approach anyone since watching them.
Approximately 4 weeks ago, I began going game in a very subtle way, focusing more on body language then flirting with woman, as I was protective of my status in Highschool. I have became quite close friends with few girls but would just stay at the level, these friends were HB5-7 as I was just testing out my knowledge. Then 2 weeks later, I began to see improvements in myself, as I changed up my dress code, hairstyle and generally being way more confident as before in my ultra AFC junior years in High School, where I got friendzoned after a crush on a girl for 5 years lol.
I had some highlights between these two weeks, had a girl asked for my phone number but I think I flirted too much then we just stopped texting but still good friends at school. Because my school required us to do volunteer services, I got to know a lot more people as I had to go to different places to help, so I was like, you know what, the game is not just for flirting and getting with bitches, it does help my life. So I started studying way more body language, read books like FBI teaches you about body languages and stuff.
List of things I increased while meeting new people (not just girls):
-Way more steady eye contact
-Good posture (Standing straight)
-Talk with deep voice
-Talk slow, walk slow
-Smiling
-Negging? (Not really good at teasing though)
I used this in University talks, communicating with artists in artist clubs, talking with teachers, and I think I have gotten quite good results. As I was complimented with things like "I had great attitude, keep good eye contact, showing good respect bla bla bla", but the most important thing is people started giving me more stuff, like the principal of the university actually gave me his personal phone number so I could direct contact him, or get easier application to the university, also an artist giving me his signature art gallery book thing that was like $30 US.
If you have read to this point, I thank you for being patient.
So yea, last week, I went to flag selling, which was GREAT, as I used this opportunity to approach a LOT of girls as well as other people.
I was smiling the whole day when approaching people, I think I was smiling too much (excessively) which could be a bad thing? Advice?
I had one memorable conversations with HB 9-10(I live in a foreign country that does not speak mainly English):
*Treat emoticons as real emotions*
Me: "Hiii
Help out and buy a flag for me!" (foreign language)
Her: "Sure,
here is 1 dollar" (foreign language)
Me: "Thank you, btw, do you speak English?" (English)
Her: "o hahah
" (then proceed to walk away)
btw this point, i was like shit, did i scare her away? but i continued.
Me: "Huh? Whaaa hahaha
?
Her: "Oh sorry, didn't hear you" (Foreign)
Me: "Do you speak English?" (Eng)
Her: "Noo.... so shit in Eng" (Eng)
Me: "Whether you understand or not, you look fucking amazing"
Her: "hahahahaha thank you
"
then exchange eye contact for 3 secs and she said bye.
Knowing this was my first direct talk to a COMPLETE stranger HB-10, I was mind blanked but I was happy with what I did.
Anyways, fast forward to the main point of this thread, I had my "technically" first approach yesterday night,
(Rmbr I am underage, can't go to clubs), I was suppose to go to this invited only university talk which I got from the principal, which was at around 7:00pm with a lot of other people.
But stupid me, I arrived like 3 hours earlier, and being just finished eating like 2 lunches since I was so bored, I was full as fuck and had to find a place to sit, so I went to a local Starbucks and saw this cute girl (i think around my age) working as cashier. I had this thought in my mind "Oh shit, this gon be my first approach? But i am full and tired as fuck from school" which I actually was, but it was actually also approach anxiety...
The shop only had 1 other person so I quickly put down my bag and went to look for drinks but was actually wanting to have another look at the girl. So I just went up to the counter and she said:
Her: Hi
, what would you like to have?
Me: Ohh, let me look around first
(Tired and slight smile)
Me: I would like a ice chocolate coffee.
Her: thanks her you go
I remained strong eye contact with her during the whole time, and smiled a lot.
then I was actually really bored and tired, so I went up to the tables and sat and slept in my arms.
Around 15 minutes later, the most unexpected thing happened.
The other person in the starbucks was sleeping too, but she walked up to me during her shift and gave me a cup of warm water to drink.
I was like O_O at first, so I said:
Me: Oh my god, thank you so much:)
Her: No problem
bla bla bla (I Couldnt rmbr, as i was in the midst of a coma)
then she walked away after taking away chocolate coffee.
Around 5 mins later, I woke up up, by that time the starbucks was empty and my phone had no battery so I just stood up and looked at the paintings hanged on the wall.
Then she came up to me suddenly, (at first i thought she was so bored of her job, she came to talk to me. But it wouldn't make sense as she had another guy beside her in the cashier, that she could talk to) (So i was thinking, aight man. your first one on one with a stranger girl, time to use the skills you learnt)
Body language activated=
-Good posture
-Hands out of pocket
-Relaxed shoulders
-Strong eye contact
-Put on smile
Her: Heyy, waiting for someone?
Me: hahahah nah, waiting for a talk later tonight
Her: oh the university thing?
*pulls out intrigued face*
*begin showing negative body language, appearing to leave, body & feet facing away*
Me: how did you know? :O
Her: Oh, students always come here so yea
----- BRAIN shut down -----
still remained eye contact and smile, but then she was facing me with hips and feet and shoulders so i continued
Me: You were a really nice person just then, to be honest i am still quite shocked
Her: Hahaha, you should tell that to my boss, just joking haha
then I don't know what happened, my lips just zipped and smiled at her.
fuck, it was getting close to awkward but still not.
*showed positive body language as thats the only thing i could think of doing*
Her: would you want something to eat?
Me: only if its for free
Her: then i gotta ask my boss hahaha
(theres no boss)
then I smiled back and had great eye contact and just went blank
Me: stay here, i am bored, talk to me
i know i fucked up this point, as i was ordering her to stay and talk to me, like she some robot, and i didn't really smile because i was still blank at the point.
Her: can't hahaha, anyways .. um
Brief silence for 1-2 second eye contact
Her: i have to get back to work, ill see if i can bring you food, bye!!
Me: oh haha thanks, bye
Then i sat down, thinking i completely FUCKED my first approach and was nervous like shit, but then i had to go because the university talk is very soon.
So i just left starbucks but i waited for the girl to come out, but she was in the kitchen, and the guy she was working with was nice and looked at me with a smile , like wanted me to wait or something. But i was starting already to go onto the escalator. So i waved and smiled good bye at the male cashier, which he did too.
So I left thinking:
Did the girl went to the kitchen to make me food? Why would suddenly this girl be so nice to me, giving me water, coming to me during work to talk to me instead of a friendly co-worker to her, and then restarting convos when i went blank and also showing positive body language.
Anyways, I am a fucking AFC that needs so much more advice from the Pros PUA.
Next week, I am going back again to take a test at the exact same place at the talk, this time I want to approach her good, I want my first successful approach and number close this cute girl I will never forget.
PUAs! Please guide me to my first success!
Thanks for reading my friends,
Schecter out.
CHAT