Hey guys, I'm new to this whole world of PU. I'm 19 yrs. old, this girl i liked was 17. We've been knowing each other for 4 years. Me and her had a "thing" from March until June of 2012, she liked me a lot and i liked her. She cut it off with me in June because her parents wouldn't approve of me she said for religious reasons. She cried, I was sad. etc. We kissed that last day I saw her in June, it was horrible because I knew things wouldn't be the same. The car ride home was quiet. After that, I stayed here and she went to a different country until August-Sept. We haven't kept in contact, but then she came back, i still had feelings, hers were kinda fading. We started talking as friends, she had a thing with some guy in the country, and when she came back, she had another thing with this one guy. Meanwhile, i stayed on the phone with her talking about problems every night, and being there for her whenever. Eventually, she fell in love with my BEST friend, they had a "thing" for about 2 weeks. He ended it because of me, said he wouldn't take her back. When this happened, she stopped talking to the other guy, and focused on my best friend(Who doesn't want her). Then, in November, she told me "IN the summer, if we're both single, we'll try it out and date", that was the plan. However, about 4 weeks ago. She cancelled those plans, because she realized she likes my bestfriend A LOT, and that would be awkward, every time she sees me, she sees him too she said. She can't open up to me, because she likes him(even though he doesn't want her), so she cancelled the plans after I've been waiting for 5 months with this plan in mind. I told her, you're only feeling this in the present moment. "In the summer, it'll be done with feeling wise. You guys don't even talk anymore" You're cutting it off for me for no reason. NOW, she's telling me me and her are "strictly friends" and every time i try to flirt she reminds me we're friends and to stop. Also, she's having a "thing" now with the guy she let go for my best friend before(The dude who she promised it's over with, never gonna happen again, he's an asshole, he's stupid, he likes her, etc.) She told me she told him how me n her are getting clsoer, we have plans, etc. but NOW, it's completely opposite. She told him me and her are just friends because she ended it with me 2-3 weeks ago. Because, she realized she likes my friend(who she has no chance with). She says her and him aren't "Strictly friends" because he likes her, and when he flirts, she flirts back. He's trying hard. etc. I just don't understand why. NEVER expected this from this kinda independent, smart girl. ... I don't understand why she won't open up to me, why she's going for this other guy who she PROMISED she wouldn't talk to anymore, why she doesn't wanna try it with me, why she cut plans off, why... what do i do now? We're still friends. We still talk every day, but it's hurting me. Is there anyway I can make her realize I'm the guy she needs? Everyone's telling her I'm the right guy. Can you guys give me some guidance? Thank you.

Sounds about right. You're the wussy ex who she feels a strong bond with and she can open up to you and talk to you about things that she can't with other people. The other guy is the lover, she may hate him mentally, but physically and emotionally she can't get enough. She can play out her fantasies with him, and she always needs to seek his approval.

TL:DR, you got ljbf'ed in the worst kind of way. Next her, move on, there are plenty more greater adventures where she came from.

if you dont want to be her "friend" then stop actiing like one. talking to a girl everyday who has put you on the backburner is killing any kind of value you have. if shes talking to you about other guys then you've got a big problem. it will probably take a long time to actually win her back. you need to start going longer periods of time without talking to her, ignoring her when you can.
u need to find a new girl to not only help get your mind off of her, but to make her see that you're not available.
if she asks why you've been avoiding her just tell you met this really cool chick recently and you want explore that option and talking to her all the time wouldnt be fair to the other girl. if you dont like being a dick you can apologize, tell her it sucks because shes a really good FRIEND, and cut her out until roughly the summer. it will be a fresh start, and your only chance at recreating the attraction that was once there.
start talking to her again like its an old friend you havent spoke to in a while, drop the ocasional you look good and stuff in there, tell her you should meet up(go for a drink or something) and make her realize how great your life has been with her not in it.

Paragraphs please. PARAGRAPHS. LISTEN TO YOUR GOD DAMN ENGLISH PROFESSORS.

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