Some background. I've known this one girl for about a year from my school. She's premed and guys are the LAST thing on her mind right now, but that has never stopped me.

Usually, things are smooth. But, every now and then, some academic shit gets up into her head that turns her into a totally different creature, who all of a sudden loses interest in my flirtations. There have been two instances in particular. Each time, after a lot of work on my part, I have had to re-escalate with her. The first time, it led to a failed attempt at sex (I went limp). The second time I had to re-escalate, things went much better. Great sex on a regular basis, and her general attitude towards me changed.

Let me also add that competition from other guys is a non-issue. Please, just take my word for that.

Recently, she has fallen into another funk, due to an upcoming exam in May. Except, there are a few more problems this time around. 1) I have no classes with her, and she is generally not on campus much anymore, so personal interactions will be much more difficult. 2) Her exam is not until May, which gives her a good 5 months to completely lose interest in me.

So, HOW DO I STAY IN THE GAME?

I'm thinking about doing a re-set... like, breaking contact with her for a month or two, and then re-initiating a month or two down the line. This past month has been tricky, and I can notice her reception to me is decreasing, so a break may be needed. Also maybe try to invoke some jealousy from her.

Note:
I'm aware that this is a case of one-itis. For what it's worth, I still kick it to other girls (just to maintain my skills), but I am trying to make something more serious out of the current girl I am discussing. If it doesn't work, so be it; but I will try.

She's in a funk because of May exams??? That's a copout bro.

I was with a girl 5 years ago who had to study for an important business exam. She failed it twice. We dated for a couple years and she never passed. I didn't see her for another two YEARS and asked if she passed that test yet. She said no but she's still studying for it. This is literally 5+ years later. And when we dated she used to give me all these excuses and whine about having to study and tell me she couldn't hang out because of it.

The bottomline is that we all have items of importance in our lives. But fortunately we have 24 hours in a day which is usually more than enough time to handle our business, cultivate relationships, and rest and relax. When people lack the ability to manage stress in their lives, they blow things out of proportion and start running around like a chicken with their heads cut off yelling that the sky is falling....just because they have some test in 5 months.

But I actually think that she's just using the test as an excuse not to have to deal with you. I'm sure it's not actually preventing you guys from hanging out. No test requires 5 months of studying.

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LOL sounds like you were in the exact same situation as me. If there's one thing I know about her, it's what you said: she sucks at managing stress.

I do think she's trying to duck me, but because she doesn't wanna get into any entanglements before her exam. I can read this girl like a book bro, her eyes get all googly when she's around me and you can tell she feels me. It's like she's trying to deny herself.

She was supposed to take the exam today, but pushed it back until the end of next semester because she still wasn't scoring well on it. She tries hard, but the results just don't match with the effort... Kinda like your girl.

The test, btw, is the MCAT. So it actually is one of those crazy tests that takes very long to prepare for.

Dunno if any of that helps.

So what happened to your girl?

Yea, MCAT's are no joke. Mine was doing an engineering test which is actually hard as fuck too. Lots of math. The certification would result in an automatic 10k salary increase. After failing it twice, I was sure she would bag it the third time. And you can imagine how disappointed I was when I found out she showed up five minutes late to the testing center and they had closed and locked the doors. She then had to wait a minimum of six months to take it again! But she didn't. She hasn't taken it again. And that was almost three years ago. Now we are dating again and she is talking about how she's still studying for it. WTF?

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