I've always had this problem, but after being out of the game for 3.5 years when I was in a relationship it seems to have gotten worse... Basically, I have a hard time building sexual tension and all things that lead into sex. I will use my latest "get together" as a reference...

Have been talking to this girl for about a week, we made out on NYE but she blacked out so nothing happened that night. She has come over for movies, etc... But all I've done so far is more kissing. We went out last night on a double-date with my roommate and his girl (who is friends with my girl), got some dinner/drinks. We get back to our house, they go in his room, we go to mine. I put a movie on, I change into comfy clothes, she changes into hers (had a pretty sexy thong on too ), hop under the covers and she puts her legs over mine and we watch the movie. I playfully slap her ass a couple of times, but other than that did not get very sexual at all.

I feel like how it was late in my relationship when the sex was lacking, I guess I'm still stuck in that mindset. I want to bang this girl, she is really cute and has an awesome body. I just need some ways to build that tension and do things that lead into sex. This is the part of my life that I feel needs the most improvement - pulling the trigger. Any help is appreciated, let's hear it.

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just slip your hand down her pants when youre kissing and go from there

I don't really understand your problem.
You've kissed her, you saw her change, you're in bed cuddling. Just start kissing her. Then kiss her neck. Then start taking off her clothes. And keep going.
Am I missing something?

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Dude WTF? Worst response ever. Are you trying to cockblock the guy?


What you need to do is so fucking simple it's gonna seem like a magic trick. You've done everything already, kissed! To me it's always been like the end of all tension, cuz once you get the kiss all you gotta do is not fuck up real bad.

So here, that revolutionary information. KISS HER NECK. Yea, that easy: Once you've kissed for a few minutes, just start kissing her neck, ears and shit. You're able to kiss the lips so I'm assuming I don't have to teach you how to do those. So yeah, kiss her neck, ears, wherever you want. After you've kissed for a few minutes, the invisible circle that's called the "kissable area" gets bigger. So now you have the credentials, go for those. And once you kiss the neck and stuff for some time, that new center also grows another kissable area bubble. Now the chest and shoulders are kissable areas. You get the picture. So what you do is just start with the mouth area, enlarge the bubble, kiss anywhere around the imaginary bubble, repeat the previous two stages til you have whole body access. Dear lord how graphic was my explanation.

BAM! This right here.

Thanks for the replies guys, it is coming back to me how I used to do it before I went into the LTR... I'll definitely take the advice and lead with it...
Perhaps you missed the part about being in a three and a half year relationship? I'm not sure if you've ever been in a LTR, but after that long, there is no seducing for sex. It's a pretty much ask and answer, as sad as that sounds. "Want to have sex tonight? Yes/No..." At the end, I didn't even look forward to it. Probably one of the factors that led to the breakup. And why I cannot "remember" how I used to do it. I figured it would be as easy as riding a bike again, but its not.

So, for all the young guys here, don't get into a LTR at a young age. Have fun and explore, save the serious shit for later...

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Alright, so she met me out Friday night and we go back to my place... Get into bed, I finger her and eat her out a bit, she gets on top and starts dry humping. She never once touches my dick... WTF? I felt like I was in high school, it was weird. Next time should I just whip out my dick and see what she does? Pretty sure she is into me, as she as already set up another "movie night" at my house and she is making me some bacon wrapped chicken for that night. She asked me what I wanted and I said anything with bacon ha.

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