Intro:Hey guys, so about a year ago I broke up with my girlfriend and I noticed that my pua-skills (that weren't good in the first place) had deteriorated in the time I was in a relationship. I had problems talking to girls confidently and couldn't approach girls in clubs etc. So I found this forum and read up on it and wanted to do the newbie mission but then I dropped it because of laziness. Anyway something happened that made me come back:

Actual story:
I haven't been busy with girls last year at all. But some girl I had met at a party asked me for a date. She wasn't that pretty (6/10) but since I haven't gotten laid for a f##king year I thought "why not"?. So I came over, watched movie, kissed. I tried to go further, but she said she didn't want to yet. But then she asked me to sleep over. I was like.. umm okay I guess. In bed we kissed and it went on to fingering/handjob. But it didn't go further since she really didn't want to have sex so soon. But the next morning was very strange. She suddenly acted a bit distant. Her texts became shorter and uninterested. We planned a couple of dates after that but she kept canceling them (not like I kept asking her for dates, but sometimes she planned it and then later cancelled for a stupid reason), and then I stopped texting her and she didn't text me either.

So what really bugs me here is.. this girl was obviously interested in me. It was really visible in the way she talked to me. Then came that date at her place and I MUST have done something wrong. Maybe it was that I waited a long time before making a move. That was kind of pussy of me but as I said, it's a long time since I've done anything.. anyway this doesn't do my confidence any good and I still cannot approach girls in clubs or bars or any place else for that matter. Going up and talking to a girl feels just as impossible for me as flying or teleporting. Anyway, could you give me a reason for why she suddenly lost interest in me (i know i gave little info here but still) and how do i deal with this huge slap in the face?

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Last minute resistance.

Did you still give her attention when she said she wasn't up for sex? this could be a contributing factor.

LMR standard procedure is to perform a freeze-out, put the tv on and watch something boring. Make it awkward then try again after 10-20 minutes...make the making out/prospect of sex more fun then not having it/she won't get attention if you don't get to fuck her.

I guess it is LMR. I don't know, I didn't give her that much attention I think. I think we just sort of went to sleep. She was putting her arms around me while falling asleep so that's why I'm so surprised by her distant attitude the next morning.

But you know, it doesn't matter that much. If I approached more girls, this one girl wouldn't bug me one bit. It's because I'm so inactive that every time I do talk to a girl, I attach a lot of worth to the outcome.

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"Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude."

LMR isn't the reason she lost interest in you. That's only when they don't want to have sex .

Here's the thing, you can't ever really know why a girl loses interest in you, especially if you didn't do anything that was notably wrong. This is why they say to continue to game multiple women. Otherwise you'll be stuck with one girl and have to worry about her emotional state of being and her arbitrary preferences. Maybe she likes you one day, then the next day she doesn't. That'd be a pretty shitty existence for a guy to have to sit and worry about bullshit like that everyday.

Usually what happens is the girl sees something in you that she likes, or figures she'll give you a chance. Then she finds out more about you and decides that's not what she really wants, or that she can do better. A lot of times there are other guys in the background you don't know about and she'd rather fall back to them instead of you. Maybe they drive a better car than you, have a bigger cock, who knows.

That's why you need to take what you can get from women and put no investment into them that you aren't willing to let go at the drop of a hat. And always be prepared to go out and find another one the next day if you have to.

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Thanks, that's some good advice. There's just one thing I always wonder about when it comes to this PUA-mindset: What do you do when it comes to the point that you want to settle down? One day, you'll want to stop messing around and perhaps marry or start a family. How do you act when you find the girl that you think you will want to settle down with? I'm just curious, I agree with what you said about not putting emotional investment into girls.

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"Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude."