So I meet this girl back in September. We date for about 3 weeks and we start having sex. Everything is going pretty smooth up until mid- December when she breaks up with me. Which was not that big a deal; she and I both knew that we were not what each other were looking for in a long-term relationship. If she didnt break up with me, I would have eventually broken up with her. We never had an argument, we just both kinda knew that we were not meant for each other. That being said though - the sex was EPIC! Just not enough to keep a relationship alive, I guess.

We are still on pretty good terms, we text each other everyday. I told her the night we broke up that I was still available for booty calls. I was half joking, but half serious as well. I think she's open to the idea of still having sex with me - no strings attached of course. But every time I bring up the subject - she dodges the question! She has implied in previous texts that she would like to have sex with me, but when I directly bring up the question - she changes the subject. So... does anyone have any idea what this means? Does anyone have any suggestions and/or ideas as to how I can convince her to have commitment free sex with me?

It sounds like she has too much control over you. You are also being too direct (you can't "convince" her to have sex with you - no amount of logic will help). She's made the decision to stop having sex with you, so you need to communicate to her that you've moved on.

Randomly stop texting her back. Don't respond to her texts, ever. If she randomly asks you "What are you doing?", don't respond. She's not interested in hanging out with you (yet), she's just interested in keeping herself inside your head.

When she sees you in person and asks you why you haven't texted her back, tell her you were busy. If she asks "With what?", just tell her you were busy. If she persists, make up something ridiculous: "I was banging strippers; I was in Venezuela; etc..." She isn't your girlfriend anymore, so she isn't privy to that information. Her mind will assume that you're out banging other girls and having lots of fun without her. This will fuck with her head.

In the mean time, you need to actually work on yourself. Go out and have fun. Do the things you love. Take up a new sport. Hang out with your friends and meet other women. She has control over you because there are no other women in the picture right now. If you don't respond to her, it communicates to her subconscious that you are a busy person, and that she isn't the center of your life. The goal is for this to one day be true, but for now you can just lie.

When she finally does want to hang out, and she says "Can we hang out Friday?" tell her "No, I'm busy, call me Monday." Then plan on doing something else on Monday, because she won't call you. When she sees/texts you Wednesday and asks you why you didn't call her, just say "I thought you were going to call me." She'll ask to hangout another day, say you're busy, and propose a different date. "Call me Tuesday". Always make her call you.

If she blows you off a second time, then its over; but if she's gone through this much trouble she'll more likely be begging you to take her back at this point. You can then tell her to stop playing mind games, because you don't put up with that bullshit.

I went through a similar situation, it might help you to read this thread: ex-girlfriend-no-contact-rule-vt148993.html