How would you proceed in my current situation? Please give your advice/opinion and thank you in advance. It's a bit long winded but you'll find the story interesting and the solution a challenge.

I met HB9 when she was too young, we agreed it would be inappropriate to act on our attraction for each other and parted ways. She's 5 years my junior. I didn't see her again for 10 years because she moved to the other side of the planet when she's 17 to pursue a dancing career and is now a successful dancer/actor/model.

One year ago she turns up at my 30th while visiting family. She can't stay long, we swap numbers and a few weeks later go out for a drink. She has a BF but tells me its over, I'm not getting signals and I decide to play it safe and I don't make a move on her, especially since she's flying out the next day and I'm not interested in long distance relationships.

Over the next year we stay in touch via text messages and FB and get quite close despite never discussing feelings. She's in the country right now, and it's not until she convinced me to go see her out of town where she's staying with mutual friends that I find out she has a new BF she's avoided telling me about. Anyway, I don't let this get to me and over a 2 day period we have a lot of fun, definite fireworks. We just CLICK, and she's even asking me about my thoughts on kids, when I'd want to have them etc. The day I leave she asks me to travel further north with them but I can't due to business I have to take care of out of town. I can tell she's gutted. I've still not made any physical advances out of respect for her having a BF.

She's back in town in a few days, I'm going to take her fishing on my boat. Then she's gone for another year.

So, do I stop being a pussy and just play this like I would if she was single and not leaving the following day? Or is there some better advice out there?

My goal would be for her to stay here with me, this isn't about getting laid although obviously getting there would be a huge factor.

One of my buddies taught me a technique basically before you even hangout through texting somehow she'll bring up her boyfriend or even if not simply say your boyfriend must treat a great girl like you like gold planting an unrealistic expectations of her boyfriend. Which should further set things up of her wanting you more when you two hangout. I'm much younger than you so I'm not sure if going on a boat trip with a guy is a for sure lay or not?

She's attracted to you, but you're never around when the timing is right. Odds of her dumping her BF for you are slim. I mean, she doesn't live near you. If ever she's single, maybe she'll bang you, but she's not going to MOVE for you. That's crazy, dude.

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RSDTyler

If you really love her, you need to everything you can do to keep her stay with you.

Stranger things have happened, her family is here and she gets very home sick, often talking about coming back. I'm not in love with her but I know that I could love her if that makes sense.