I have been talking to this girl for about 6 months now. I fucked up on the first date and told her I liked her and she said she had just gotten out of a 3 year relationship. I had found out it was an extremely bad relationship with lots of arguing etc.

Anyways, a dozen dates later I ask her if I can kiss her, she says she isn't ready yet. I realize after every time I tell her I like her, she seems to not text as well and not hangout as much and seperates herself from me, but a few weeks go by and its back to texting and hanging out. She separates from me whenever I tell her I like her.

Everyone at work thinks were together and a girl that likes me always implies that me and her are "fuck buddies" although that is not the case and I was still waiting for a kiss. Well me and the girl i like started hanging a lot more frequently, and I have come to realize that when she is drinking, she is on my dick. Arms are around me, cuddling on the bed with a leg tossed over me, she is really close to me etc. but when were sober she is barely touchy, not much flirting. She also insists that she doesn't like any guys but me. When we were talking, she was drunk and said that she is really messed up from her previous bf, she is broken. She says shes sorry she cant be in a relationship and she wants to be in good shape and be able to love me as much as i would love her blah blah blah. I never brought up a relationship and she is always the one to bring it up.

Now this is the shitty part. One night we were hanging out with friends in a hotel room, drinking, and at the end of the night everyone was asleep and me and her were talking and SHE kissed ME, unlike the first time where she denied my kiss. This is 4 months after I was rejected. We hooked up for a couple of hours, but I didnt go all the way because she didnt want to, although her bra was off and I fingered a bit. The whole time we were hooking up she kept on saying she is a slut and she is sorry if we dont chill for a while. Keep in mind that most of the woman at my job are attracted to me and she is also very attractive and im sure the men try to get with her. I try not to flirt with the other girls though.

Well the next day came and I fucked up. Again. When will I learn my fucking lesson. she texted me, and I responded terribly by telling her I liked her and shit(I'm a fucking idiot). she didnt respond and I saw her at work and she was a little bit avoidy. She wouldnt hang out with me, would barely text me, and then she dropped a bomb. she texted me telling me she didnt want to hang out as much and that we shouldnt talk as much because we hooked up and she didnt want to hurt me and how big of a mistake she made and she has cried over the situation. she also said it would be better if we were friends and would understand if i never talked to her again and hated her(I have told her in the past that if she didnt like me we could just be friends but always insisted that she did like me and just didnt know what she wanted). I played good guy and acted like it was no biggie and ensured we would still hang out alot and shit. We kinda stopped texting, only texting when i texted first and it isnt very good texting either but not terrible.

At work I stopped going up to her and now she comes up to me and talks to me for a while and I notice she comes to the part of the building that I am to talk to me. She is also still flirting with me and we have hungout once since the hookup which was about a month ago. I really need advice. Im sure you have heard this a million times but she is one of a kind and I know it,and she is driving me fucking crazy and I would hate to lose her.


This is a post with better detail all the way up to before the hookup
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Easy. Stop texting her first. Stop initating conversations at work. If she texts you, take your time to reply, talk briefly for a bit and then say you have to go do something. ALWAYS BE THE ONE WHO ENDS THE CONVOS THROUGH TEXT AND PERSON.

When she comes up to talk to you at work, just act non-chalant and relaxed, don't give IOIs and try and keep the chat to a minimum and say you are busy. In a week or 2 she'll be crawling back to you. Its how I got my ex-gf back. It is honestly fool-proof. Chicks cannot stand when you don't show interest when they think you should/are

I kind of wish people knew the purpose of paragraphs.

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She is a weird type of girl, and I feel like if I were to stop talking to her she might stop talking to me. She is extremely shy and really awkward. Do you think this approach would still work? And as much as I would hate to hear it, I think she is definitely worth it, but do you guys think she will ever come around?

It will work. They are all the same in the end. And for a question...what do you have to lose? A terribly non-functioning relationship?

I guess I have been doing that alittle lately. I remember when we first started talking she would always text me in the morning first. If this doesn't work and we stop talking for a bit what do you guys suggest I do and do you think she is being so difficult because of her previous relationship and trust issues or my fucking stupid ass mistakes that I keep on making? I am the only guys she says she has hooked up with after her previous bf.

Any other suggestions?

I have been ignoring her for the past 2 days at work. First day she would go out of her way to come and talk to me(she came up to me about 5 times, which is way more than usual). I was nice and talk back, no flirting though. Towards the end of the day I think she thought I was mad at her(visits from her became alot less frequent) but then she came and talked to me and I acted fine.

The second day I accidentally caught a glimpse of her looking directly at me as she walked passed and she smiled and then I smiled. She was lingering around my area all day but I wouldnt look at her as she passed me and then she started to do the same back(she also would talk to the guys that I hang around, but not me, i'm guessing to get me jealous). She didnt come up to me at all and I didnt go up to her either. At the end of the day, I was in a small group talking to a girl when she came in and listened for a bit but then started a convo with a guy in the group(She did it because I was showing her no attention). As I was leaving(I hadnt talked to her all day) I was giving everyone goodbye high fives and when I got to her I could tell she was anticipating it and I couldnt help but to jokingly pull my hand back, and then she playfully tapped me with her leg and smiled.

Now, I'm unsure if I should acknowledge her as she walks past or not and if i should flirt with her when talking to her. Im not acknowledging her, I simply act like shes not there, even if she is waiting for me to look at her and smile. I am also not flirting, but I smile and listen and talk well.

Man this is gold. It is working like a charm. When they go out of their way to talk to guys in front of you to make you jealous, you know its getting to them. She is going crazy after just 2 days. Whatever you do, do not show jealousy towards her talking to other men. Keep the calm, cool collected version of yourself that you have been holding onto these last 2 days. And her seeing you talking to a girl in a group is a major DHV and will get that female competition going. A couple more days and you'll have her begging you for attention. It's gonna be great man. Keep the updates coming!

alright, my bestfriend was talking to her trying to "help" me without me knowing. I know he would never try to steal a girl from me but I wish he would have talked to me about talking to her first. So he was talking to her and asking her about why she isn't in a relationship and shit, and she said that she feels that no guys understand her. I honestly think that she isn't over her previous emotionally destructive relationship. We haven't texted in 5 days and I was last to text her. I don't know if I should ask her to hang out in person, text her to hang out, still play the same game of ignoring her, etc. I wish my friend wouldn't have talked to her because now I'm tripping balls lol.

Ive been keeping consistent with ignoring her but I don't think it's working. We have pretty much lost contact and she only texted me once asking about the holidays, I responded, and she didn't respond after that. I'm starting to think this isn't working, should I keep consistent or give in and start talking to her again

i cant believe how retarded you are seriously.

this girl told you st8 up she loves to get fucked and your sitting there twirling your thumbs texting her some irrelevant mushy shit.

there is 1 way and 1 way only to this girls heart. HER PUSSY.

you fuck her like a champion, shes yours.

she says no guys understand her. thats code for " NO GUY FUCKS ME WITHOUT FALLING IN LOVE AND IM SICK OF THESE FUCKING LOSERS FALLING IN LOVE ALL I WANT IS TO GET FUCKED"

first comes sex, then comes relationship.

you have made her feel GUILTY because of your "i like you so much" shit. and she feels that if she fucks you she will DESTROY YOU because of how weak you are.

Distance yourself for a while and don't respond if she texts, go no contact and live your own life, talk to some other girls and she MIGHT come back.

When she texts you, you respond straight away and come running right back. IGNORE HER

Pretty much this. Every time I read "told her I liked her" I cringed more and more. I mean, then you go on to the part where you finally get some decent escalation (you should have really pushed for an f-close after getting the 'i'm a slut' line though) and what do you do? CONFESS YOUR FUCKING FEELINGS. Dude, backburner this girl if you want any chance, she's got all the power, now you're just in the validation pile. You need to be flirting with and hooking up with other girls, putting this girl in the "waste of my fucking time" pile.

And for christ sakes, if you find her drunk and all over you again, fucking isolate her and fuck her stupid. Then shut the fuck up, and act like it was no big deal. Then go fuck a different girl in the next week, just for good measure, cause your one-itis is pretty sickening.