Basically, I started working in a bar about 2 months ago. I've slept with 1 girl there already and I generally sleep around a fair bit. I've been messed about in the past by ex's and i've not been looking for anything bla bla.

However, I met this girl at work who does 1 shift a week, we got on quite well and she added me on facebook (she looked at our work rota to get my name for facebook), and we started chatting. I got her number and we arranged to meet up. We met up for a drink after sending a lot of texts to each other, we kissed in the pub, and then we kissed again when I dropped her off.

She then discovered to me that she has a long term boyfriend of almost 3 years, and she lives with her Mum and him (she's 19), however, she isn't happy with him as he's a bit messed in the head and the spark's gone. she told me that she really felt a spark between me and her and she wants more to happen etc.

Today, I worked with her again. I kissed her at work and she was supposed to be coming back to mine (she's said many times she'd love to sleep with me etc), but she felt guilty today because she has been having loads of arguments with him and it's really strange. She text me tonight saying that she likes me much more than she should and she wants me to stick around.

Now i'm not going to get really attached to this girl (purely cause I won't let myself), although I do find her really cute and sweet, and I can't say i've wanted to fuck someone so much, for quite a while. Maybe it's because I know that she's hard to get. I'm not sure.

I wouldn't consider myself AFC so please don't give me any patronizing responses, I just generally don't let myself get into these situations. The fact I work with her isn't a problem as much cause we rarely have shifts together. I'm just trying to find out what people think I should do. She's saying she's contemplating leaving him, but all his family have basically abandoned him and she's all he has.

She's obviously a bit of an idiot for cheating on him, and I know if she'd cheat on him she'd cheat on me, i'm not interested in that because I wouldn't get in an LTR with her cause I don't like to be tied down myself, I just want to know how people think I should play it. At the minute i'm coming across a bit too soppy and needy for my own good to convince her she should stick it out with me.

Sorry for the essay. Also, i'm not a prick for getting involved with her.. I originally didn't know, and it's not my fault she has a boyfriend.

Love you all long time.

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Behind the lady who dances and the man who madly drinks, i'll show you the truth about love.

Yep, you said it... Not worth a LTR with her -- if she'd cheat on him, she'd cheat on you. But then again she's pretty young.

Anyhow, just as with many situations, I recommend being nonchalant. She wants you to stick around for her? "Maybe I will, maybe I won't. I donno" is your answer. Just go about carrying your everyday life and keep her guessing as to what you have planned.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

Typically girls from 18-22 are ding Dongs! meaning they fall in love every 5 minutes. Dont let her talking about spark and all that shit get you dooped play the game and thats IT!

Not patronizing man, but you're the victim here. She is using you for her breakup. I'd advise not to develop any emotional connections.