Hey guys, i'm new to this forum but it looks very useful so thought I would join.

Anways to cut a long story short I met a girl on POF and we talked for a few weeks so I suggested we go out for dinner and she was up for it.

I met up for dinner with her tonight it went really well we chatted for ages and she seemed to laugh a lot and was having a good time. At the end of the night she drove me home as I didn't take my car out, my house is about 20-30 minutes from the resteraunt and is in the opposite direction of her house so I took this like she was interested. We were chatting a lot on the drive to mine and having fun.

When she stopped at mine it seemed kinda awkward like she wanted to be invited in but I couldn't as my room is a complete tip there are clothes and bin bags everywhere im in the process of cleaning it, I was worried if she seen it she might not call me again. Plus I live with my parents and it would just be awkward as they would have to meet her.

So I kind of left without even hugging or kissing her and said 'we should meet up again soon' and she replied 'yeah you should text me'

She text me later on saying she had a good night and if I was out on friday night we should meet up, I mentioned to her I would be going out either friday or saturday with some friends but didn't know what night im going out. If not she said we should go out another time.

I'm really worried i've totally blown it. I'm really bad at making first moves and don't have the most experience in the world with girls. I really like this girl and she seemed interested.

How can I get a kiss on the next date? i'm not good with intionating a kiss, what type of situation would it have to be, I can't just go up to her and kiss her.

Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

thanks.

You didn't blow anything... She's still interested. I doubt she wanted you to inviter her in though... Probably a kiss.

Anyway... Very simple. Google the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder. Try taking her to a bar/pub next time where you can work your way up to a kiss.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

Yea, you inadvertently made things better for yourself. Because you didn't come across as needy or pushy, and she obviously is still into you, or into you even more now. But you need to clean your room and plan ahead. Prepare for her to be able to come over, meet your parents if she has to, and go up to your room to "play".

Try this, the next time she comes over, be like "Agh, I don't wan to go in just yet. Do you wanna just park the car and go for a walk around the block with me?" Girls love romantic walks. She'll likely agree. Then you SLOWLY go on your stroll down the sidewalk, walking right next to her with the sides of your arms touching. This is where you play tourguide and DHV yourself. Start telling her littl funny anecdotes about your neighbors, pointing things out, sounding knowledgeable. Maybe do something wild and crazy, like tell her you need to take a piss on a fire hydrant or something. Get her laughing. This isn't two old folks going on a walk after dinner.

The key is to walk for a while, then hopefully arrive at some area where you can stop and look at something or talk about something. Then when you stop, there should be some sexual tension. It's two people who like each other standing next to one another with nothing else to do. The obvious next step is to basically just grab her and pull her in and kiss her with confidence.

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thanks for your help guys I appreciate it.

I kind of thought I blew it but now thinking about it at least she doesn't think i'm just after one thing. In the past i've not made a move early on and i've really regretted it and the problem I find is just getting into that friends zone.

I found out i'm going out on Saturday night now so I can't meet her on Friday but will arrange something another time.

Gonna text her now I don't wanna come across as too keen though.

I will look at DiCarlo Escalation Ladder you guys were talking about. I'll keep you updated on any progress.