Right guys, I'm in a particularly fucked up situation n I need a plan.

Was with an awesome girl for five months and everything was amazing. We never argued, had a great time whenever we were together, fell in love n seen eachother every day, the sex was amazing n we fucked every single day. Then shit went bad bout a month ago, I got her pregnant n she freaked out. Couple of days beforehand we had had our first agmrguemebt cos she had been flirty txtn this guy when she was drunk n I had saw n kicked off a bit. This definitely did not help. She decided straight away she was having an abortion n few days later started getting really distant towards me then the day after she had the abortion she finished with me. I can't believe it cos she used to say all the tome how happy she was wi me n how we were so so perfect for eachother which I felt too n anyone who ever spent time wi us thought the same. I tried to give her a bit space n then tried to txt her after bout a week. She would never really engage or sometimes jus not txt bk. I called her bout two weeks ago drunk which I realise was dumb n she basically jus told me to delete her number cos it would help me get over her. Which I think means help her get over me, I know why she doesn't wana be friends is cos she knows something would happen with us, either that or she wants to forget the abortion n thinking keeping me out her life will help her do that. I have tried to move on, fucked quite a few girls in the last month but I still crave my ex every day. This is the real shit, iv been in plenty relationships before but never felt this way about anyone. She's seein someone else SPAM but don't think it means much. I know I can get her bk, I jus havnt worked out how. Ideas boys?

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NO CONTACT NO CONTACT NO CONTACT NO CONTACT NO CONTACT NO CONTACT NO CONTACT

I don't see that working buddy. What makes you think it will?

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She had an abortion after one argument? She was drunk AND pregnant when she was flirty texting? You're not telling us the whole story.

Regardless of what you left out, your head isn't right. Step back from the situation.

No contact for one week. Just leave her alone for seven days and we'll go from there. And no drinking. If you come back here tomorrow and say "I had a drink and ended no contact", then I give up.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Yeah, I say no contact like that because you should probably go at least a few days, gain a bit more insight and share some details here. If I scream it at you, maybe you'll listen and not get drunk and hit her up.

Well I havnt contacted her for last two weeks already n havnt heard fuck all from her. She's still on my fb so should I be doin anything with my page, status updates, uploading pics etc, not neccesarrily aimed at her but jus in general. With regards to the abortion, the pregnancy wasn't planned so she may have aborted even if we hadnt argued. And when it cones to drink, me n her used to drink bout twice a week so not excessive. When we finished I went off the rails for couple of weeks but iv got my shit together a bit now n focussing on getting her bk as this seems more constructive than getting out my face seven days a week.

What comes after the no contact phase guys? She's a sucker for flowers.... Or do I buy her a Xmas present that will make her sentimental? Of I have to wait to Xmas wi no contact til then I will do but I dont know if this is best way to proceed. Jus gives her time to get comfortable n possibly fall for this guy she seein SPAM.

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