Over the past couple of weeks I haven't really posted in this forum. My game (meaning the technical almost mechanical stuff) is pretty much rock solid, but I am having trouble with more complicated stuff which I haven't really experienced before.

There is a girl (duh) and I have been seeing her on and of for the past few weeks. We first slept together about 3 weeks ago and I had sex another 2 times that week. Shortly after that we both started having cold feet about a relationship and mutually backed out, we said we would stay friends but either fortunately or unfortunately we had sex again last week. Now the same thing has happened.

I suppose it has gotten to the stage where we can no longer have sex without it becoming serious. I don't really care either way, I'm just happy to have something to stick my dick into. I know that what I should do is just chock this one up to a win and just continue on with other girls, but that's not so easy. You see it took me weeks of pretty hard grafting just to get her into bed and I really really don't want to do that again, it's not so much a case of oneitis as a case of laziness. I also forgot to mention she is incredibly hot and is a fantastic ride.

We seem to get on very well and we spend a lot of time together, I'm also pretty sure that with a little work I could definitely get her into bed again. This is not a case of 'fantasy' oneitis where I have placed the girl on such a high pedestal to the point that she is unattainable. I could definitely attain her again.

My only question is should I? I haven't developed any real feelings yet so there are no feelings hurt (unless horniness is a feeling in which case my horniness is hurting pretty bad). We get on really really well in a friendly way so I guess I don't want to actually lose her as a friend. Will continuing on with the sexual relationship risk fucking that all up until we are unable to spend time together?

Another question is this: Will spending a lot of my time with her and her friends (basically forming a group) cancel out my chances with other women? I'm guessing neither she nor her friends will ever become my wing women if there are unspoken feelings floating around.

But that being said I do like her in a friendly way and I absolutely love her friends. I have very high standards for the people who I would consider my friends and this group is not something I want to walk away from. I like them.

So basically it comes down to 3 choices:
1. Press for sex and potentially fuck everything up. (I fucked up with a different girl about 2 months ago which basically turned her into an enemy. That really sucks.)
2. Agree to be friends and maybe occasionally have sex, but with all the complications that will cause.
3. Stay friendly but essentially walk away with very little to fall back on.

This is a complicated question I know, and it is an absolute headwrecker for me. I literally don't know where to go from here. Normally in a case like this I would just wing it and see what happens but there seems to be a lot at stake so I might need to practice caution. I could really do with some advice so please, go ahead!

*Oh yeah I thought I'd clarify that I'm a college student, reading that over makes it sound a lot like high school

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Now, bring me that horizon!

First of all man, sex just changed everything. So if you're both enjoying it, you may as well keep having it. Going from a sexual relationship to a strictly platonic relationship can be extremely difficult, if not impossible due to feelings of either or both parties. You've already crossed that bridge, Beast, now dance on the other side

Second of all, and you'll hear this again: What do you want? Honestly ask yourself what you want from this girl, and make that intention known. If you really want to be just platonic friends, but never see yourself dating her, then insist you two stop having sex and spending as much time alone together. If you just want to be FWB, just tell her that you enjoy her friendship and the sex but have no expectations of a relationship. If you could see her as a possible girlfriend (and you enjoy the friendship and sex it seems, so it's worth considering) then talk to her about it. You can't predict the future, or if you'll develop feelings for this girl, but be willing to bet if you both continue sleeping together you both likely will. It's natural, man.

Third, don't worry about your chances with other women, even her friends. As long as you don't do anything really bad to this girl (lie/cheat/steal/abuse/etc) and treat her well regardless of your status, it'll likely only improve your chances with her friends.

No matter what, it all comes down to communication, actually. Something that took me too long to learn is that you should be able to have an open, honest conversation with whomever you're sleeping with. For now, I would just keep doing what you want, what makes YOU happy, and what YOU have fun doing. If sex with her is one of those things, then keep at it, and let HER bring up where the relationship is going. You can just mentally prepare yourself for that conversation in the meantime.