Hey,

Next week I have a reunion with my collegemates. My oneitis at the time will be there. And she will be close, like same table close. She is the one who made me who I am now. I mean after I AFC-ed her away. Lost almost 100 lbs, got my life together with a better job, fun activities and meeting a lot of women...

I should be proud and confident. But the closer the day comes, the more I get scared. I'm not goimg to do a no show, I'm a man Iwant to go and see how the guys are doing she has no power over me.

But I could use some advice on how to quickly regain that confidence that seemed so naturally these past months.

Anyone?

If you're nervous, that's normal. If you're a nervous wreck... man the fuck up... This isn't a life or death situation.

Your primary goal isn't to go talk to her... It's to impress her. Which you don't have to talk to her to do. Just impress and entertain the people around you. Have some stories ready to tell. That way you can be the center of attention, and she may listen in. If it helps you, get a little tipsy before the reunion... That always doubles the size of my testicles.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

You are right! Impressing her will not be that hard to do, I've lost 100 pounds and gained some muscle... that will impress all of them. Plus it's a great topic to talk about with the guys, I have more knowledge of working out than anyone of them.

And besides, my mind should not be with her at all...

Thank you man!

It worked!

Care to elaborate?

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

Who the fuck cares? It's one girl. Game her and others.

What makes her so special? Don't tell me magical special traits about her - how many other girls are sensitive, sweet, hot, smart, etc?

Most.

Did just like you said. First time I saw her was when I was smoking a cigarette outside, she ignored me but I saw her suprised[co look (100 lbs slimmer hahaha). When I got back inside I saw she took a seat at the same table as me, as I predicted. I had my stories ready, took the lead in the conversation and slowly the icequeen engaged in the conversation. By the end of the night she started a one on one conversation with me, nothing special just about sports.

When I left she was outside, so I said goodbye, wanted to give her a hug, but while putting my arms around her I realised I'm a man so I kissed her instead. Whispered in her ear that it was great seeing her again. Got a text later saying she had fun. Didn't reply!

I kissed her before but that was before I 'fell in love', so this kind of feels like a victory...

Like a baws. High five.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

Thanks man!

Don't think I'm going to contact her anytime soon. I kept my cool but don't ask how, all those useless thoughts of how beautiful she looked and how great it would be to be with her everyday immediatly came back. Resisting them one night is one thing, but trying to game her while having this mindset is another thing.

I guess once oneitis, always oneitis...