Hey guys, i'm new here so i'd like to start out by saying hi to everyone, and thanx for caring and at least reading this. Although answers would still be appreciated.

3 years ago, I was a virgin. 2 years ago, I had learnt about seduction and was no longer a virgin. Last year everything was goin bad in my life, so I've lost a lot of my self confidence.

Now that I'm working somewhere else and kinda happy, it started coming back together. I remember the days when I was doin good man. But now, I've set the target really high.

The thing is, there was this model girl where I work. We shot for three days, and every day we had nice conversations. I tried to do my best from what I remembered, and get back home each day to read and learn more so I'd get better than I ever was. Cuz I really want this girl man, this one's important.

So here are the good and bad parts. Tell me how you think this goes so far.

- Where I work, noone speaks english as well as I do. She also told I was the best english speaking guy she saw in my country. I see that as a plus. This signals she hasn't encountered anyone to have an actual connection with.
- We had fun conversations all the time, there werent any awkward silences but there were some silent moments on occassion, but she'd jump in and say something and we turned those into other fun conversations.
- Realizing I was the good guy for two days, in the beginning of the last day I announced it was my "asshole day", and I told her "not gonna see you again, so who cares" in a fun way, so she knew I was just being a funny asshole and nothing else. Wasnt too much of an asshole tho. Couldve done more.
- After a business related question, she answered she was having some kinda problems with her boyfriend back in her country. Then she corrected "ex-boyfriend".

Before she left, I asked for her last name. I told her I'd add her on facebook. Didnt wanna move too quick, so I just added her after 24 hours had passed. She still hasnt confirmed my request, but I can also see she hasn't been on facebook all this time either. I can see her wall and there are no current updates. And I know she will add me, even if just for basic politeness.

What do you think I should do? I know messaging her now would be wrong. But I'm sick and tired of waiting. If and when she adds me, how would you guys advise me to proceed?

Thanks a lot, I'll be here for a long time now, so hopefully I'll answer some questions too and return your kindness.

i think you should wait until she accepts you on facebook , so you wont look to desperate , you should be the same talk with her on facebook and try to set a meeting , the great IOI that she gave you was the "ex bf" so i think you will do just fine . but isnt it a problem because she lives in another country ? (or just her bf lives there) ?:)

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Thanx man. It WAS an IOI wasnt it? She's just totally hot I can't believe it could ever go well. I keep thinking I'll be friend zoned in no time. But since it was a work area, I'll be able to say "Hey I had to behave all nice and stuff just so people wouldnt start talkin silly" (not exactly that but something close and not giving a dlv) and hopefully set a new frame in her mind that I'm different outside on other social environments.

Her being from another country, well she said she would be in the city for another month, but liked the place so much that she'll probably stay longer and hasnt set a deadline. Plus, she has work here and things apparently have been going better for her than her country. I'm hoping to prove another reason for her to stay .

So now try to not mess it up im not that good at seducing on facebook , but i think its more easier cause you have more time to think how you could DHV and make social prove by photos with friends etc, so when she will come back to your country you will be set to go on a date with her

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ahahahahahahaha

You're laughin at the part I go "this one's important" I assume ?

I am really looking forward to you answer by the way, I'd like to know why you were laughing.

Says "I offer quality coaching services through SPAM for low rates, PM for details." on your signature. The reason you laughed might help your potential clients decide whether you're a good person or just a douche who'll recite what he's memorized from books for money.

I'm laughing because it's funny.

You come here asking advice about ONE girl who you just must have, even though you never been out with her or fucked her.

Do you see how retarded you sound right now?

You have an opportunity to fuck a model, and you're already fucking up without realizing it.

You think reading PUA material and seeking advice here is some magic pill to get you this girl. You're in for a rude awakening bro.

Go out, and get more girls.

this

And that's the part you're missing, and that's the part you are wrong.

You miss the human part of all this, which is quite ironic.

You have memorized to laugh at all this, cuz that's the natural reflex to what I said in the PUA community.

Then again; I did say that I had hard times and lost my self confidence, didn't I? So you, being the prodigy and all that stuff, should be considering "Why does he say this one is important?". Under that circumstances you would go like "Yea man, this guy probably wasnt satisfied with the chicks he's been with lately, felt like he deserves better and shite."

So yeah, this is perhaps not about ONE girl that I MUST have, but this particular pick up event is by coincidence, happening in an important time of my life.

I've been depressed for a long fucking time, because of non-pickup-related things. And I need some single fucking thing to go good in my life. And I don't want to miss such a good oppurtunity. Think of it like a football game. You haven't scored for a season and now the goal you need for the championship is so close, ball is rollin towards you and all you need to win is to apply that gentle push with the inside of your foot.


So yeah, keep laughing. It's easier than giving actual advice. How much do I owe you for your private lesson?

Still need help guys, dont let this slide down just yet

Bro, just so you know, VP isn't a douche or a dick in anyway. He offers great advice always.....and he did for you, but you didn't get it....

He's being serious and trying to teach you a lesson. You can't just pin all your hopes on one girl, first of all. Especially based on what little you have shared with her.

you're doing this, and in your head and heart, being obsessed and needy, whether you realize it or not. That was just one point he was trying to make.

If you are studying PU, the end result is to get you better socially, especially with woman....NOT to get you a single girl you had in mind.

Now by going after more girls, more options will open up for you. You won't have to pin all your hopes on this one girl and you will realize how silly you were being.

See how simple VP put it, yet I had to translate it into like 3 sentences for you. Read between the lines, bro....he was trying to help.

good luck!