Hi
I'm new here, and could do with some guidance.
I'm pretty confidant, but suffer from not being able to close a deal with girls I really care about, and am able to close easily with someone I have very little interest in!
One case like this happened recently, and I'm hoping to somehow salvage it, hopefully with your guidance.
I met a girl about a month ago on Internet dating; we were matched at 90%
We met up for a date, and got drunk together, it was great fun.
She was very attractive and we had a few passionate kisses.
There were several texts flying between us afterwards, I played it cool, and we met up for a further two dates, both of which were good fun.
We stayed in touch over texts and I continued to play it cool.
She works as a model, but is disillusioned with many of the guys she meets in the industry, so is looking elsewhere, hence Internet Dating.
I got the impression she was quite free-spirited, could have sex with anyone she wants, but is looking for something more. I reckoned she had a few partners who she slept with but there was enough interest there for me to pursue her further.
During one of our dates, I asked her what sort of success she'd had on Internet Dating in the past, and she told me that she'd met someone interesting, but ultimately it had fizzled out because she has a busy schedule, and he ended up being quite jealous because of all her male friends.
Time passed, and we weren't able to meet for a fourth date due to both of our busy schedules. After about a fortnight I made a conscious effort to get something in the diary.
She was playing a little bit hard to get, so I called her one night and said, look I don't want to be one of these guys who is constantly hassling you, but we have fun together and we should see each other again.
She agreed, and we decided to add each other on Facebook, as it was a good way of staying in touch.
On Saturday night my iPhone pinged that she was nearby so I messaged her, she never replied. I was out with friends and a little drunk, so the next day when I looked at my phone I saw that I had messaged her at 2am and was gutted, as now I looked like some strange stalker dude.
I felt terrible all day Sunday, and in the evening thought I would find a way to clear the air, so I messaged her asking how her weekend was.
She text back and asked about mine, the usual two way conversation, hers littered with lots of kisses.
I said we should FaceTime, and she replied that she was tired and lying on the couch. I thought how cute and said if we FaceTimed I could see her sleepy face.
There was a long pause and then she told me that she was actually with someone who she was seeing, hence no FaceTime.
I was a little shocked and replied that that was a little harsh, and disappointing.
She apologised, and I commented that I thought she was single, hence dates, etc..
She told me that she was single, and although she'd had fun with me, she didn't think there was enough chemistry and that we should be friends, to which I replied: fair enough, I understand.
So that's that, and I decided to move on.
However, I'm actually disappointed. I was obviously very attracted to her, and I really liked hanging out with her.
I've been on a lot of dates this year, but she was the girl who I was genuinely excited being with.
I know my chance has probably been blown, but if anyone could help turn things around, then it would be the grand Pick-Up Artists who frequent this forum.
So after being a lurker for a while now, I've decided to sign-up, tell you my story and sit back to see what advice is given?
Thanks in advance
CHAT