When a female stops texting you incessantly during the freeze-out.. Is that what you ultimately want? This HB9 tried conversationally texting me from last Tuesday (freeze-out start date) until Saturday, i showed disinterest in my one or two responses i gave her then just went back to ignoring her texts, but since Saturday night, she hasn't attempted to text me...granted this is what i want, cause i like having the power but at the same token should i be concerned the freeze out backfired? What do you think shes thinking? I feel that shes just either trying to play my little game or shes trying to show some misplaced sense of defiance...anyways when should i end the freeze-out? or should i keep it going..a little background she just moved to new york city, pretty far away from me but she should be returning to DC here within a month or two, my thought was to strain our relations with each other so she approaches me when were out with a group of friends when she returns then close on her. All input is truly appreciated.

Have a great day gentleman.

The freeze is what it is. It conveys the message you want to send. Yes, ideally she'll start to chase you, but she may just go silent altogether. If she does, you have to break the silence and contact her again. It's as simple as that. We can't possibly know what she is thinking behind the scenes.

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Dude you've missed out so much essential information. Why did you do the freeze-out? What was the reason behind it? And when you freeze her out and she initiates contact again, reward her for it. Don't punish her by another freeze-out. Then she'll just think you've lost interest. That's not what's supposed to be conveyed. What's supposed to be conveyed is that you're non-needy, if she doesn't reply you've got other things to put your mind to. But once she replies, just take it casual and text her again, then ask her out.

other than perhaps shit tests, freezeouts are the probably the single most misunderstood and misused concept on this board. so much so that most of you guys should probably not be even using them. it seems like everyone who posts about a freezeout is either misunderstanding how to do it or when to use it or something else about it.

also, i agree with what tr@veler and puaninja said.

Then enlighten us on how and when to use them.

heh after i posted that i kinda thought my post my generate this type of response. fair enough. im certainly not super-masterPUA guy or anything and not trying to come off as holier than thou. im also not trying to reinvent the wheel here...

i guess my point would be to know what you are trying to accomplish when freezing out. a good example of when to do it would be a thread on the front page that i just posted in:

the-friend-with-benefits-vt151575.html

hopefully a mod or somebody who's been around longer than i have can post a link to a post on freezeouts. im sure somebody around here has made a very solid post about it somewhere that covers it pretty well. ill look around when i have a chance.

I froze her out because when she moved back to NYC i didn't want her to think of me as just some guy she texts a lot, i don't want to fall into the friend zone even though i believe its possible to escape such a zone. I just want to avoid anything that would construe myself as just someone she texts when shes bored. I have conveyed feelings to her before but she didn't really react positively or negatively towards it, she kind of ignored it, and still texted me and hung out with me a lot...i feel as though its a lost cause i fucked up at some point, but she has admitted to finding me attractive, so i'm never really sure where shes at. Anyways i feel like my best option is to just freeze her ass out an talk to other females.

More fish in the sea.

She texts you a lot and she said she finds you attractive. That's all you need. This means you could probably stick your penis in her vagina if you make the right moves. To be sure, observe her behaviour when talking about sex.

Just because she doesn't share her feelings, doesn't mean she has you friendzoned. Some girls, like the one I'm seeing now, are uncomfortable sharing their feelings so they just avoid it altogether. The key skill is knowing how she feels for you by observing her behaviour.

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Dude that is not what a freeze-out is for. This is simply not being needy and texting her all the time. A freeze-out is used as punishment for bad behavior on her side. You are taking away from her, not giving her the fun and attention she wants from you, which makes her crave it. There has been no bad behavior at all here, simply logistics have screwed you up. You haven't done anything wrong, it's just life that has pulled her away from you. Go meet other girls, you have a crush on this one. Let it pass and meet more women in the meantime. It will speed up the process. Attain an abundance mentality.