Hi Guys,

I am deeply in Love with a Girl, but the thing is she has a BF, it is a serious relationship. I've known her since I was 19, and we have always had a thing for each other, then we didn't see each other for 6 years but got back in contact through facebook, she was already with this guy when we got back in touch, that was back in 2010. We messaged through facebook and it became apparent that we still had very strong feeling for each other, she said she had always wanted me to ask her out as we were very close friends before, even though she had a BF back then!

So after a lot of messages on FB she gave me her number, we text each other frequently and had a few 2-3 hour phone calls over the past 2 years, it got very sexual and she even burst out that she loved me!

Now I know this isn't exactly very moral but I want her so much, I honestly believe she is the girl I want to settle with, have kids with etc, I WANT HER and she is 27 now so she must be thinking about settling soon, as the biological clock is ticking! And I want to be the one she does so with.

But the BF, never met him and have nothing against him but I feel like he is an obstacle between me and her.

They live together so it wouldn't be an easy break for her.

What can I do to get her to choose me?

Its pretty simple man game her like you would any other girl...when she brings up her bf act like its not a big deal.

You: Lets go for drinks friday/ or I'm headed to a really cool spot i think you would like come along
Her: Can't I have a boyfriend
You: What? does he not allow you to hang out with friends?
Her: No he wouldn't like me hanging out with another guy
You: What do you want? its you life correct?

If she deems you as higher value then her bf she will make it happen. If she values her relationship and her bf is high value chances are she's not going to risk cheating.

You have oneitis, we all get it but you need to get over it! could you land this girl? of course but your talking marriage when you haven't even dated her....its called infatuation, and chemicals in your brain going wild. If you had abundance in your life you wouldn't be as desperate to get this girl....believe me I meet women that I fall head over heals for too, in fact there's a girl I'm talking to right now who I really like! I'm talking to a bunch of girls but this girl and I have great chemistry and I really like her! I have a slight case if oneitis....BUT I realize that it might not workout and she is only human like the other women. I also realize the I have had this feeling in the past and will probably have it again. Guys who are new to the game or are not use to getting high quality women often don't know how to control their emotions when they meet someone they really like. After a while you become more immune to the feeling, you need to have your heat broken one or two times imo in order to realize that no women is special....yeah she might be really cool, and "gf material" but there are many more out there just like her.

Her living with him and being 27 means she has also invested a lot into the relationship which is enough for he to stay with him even if she no longer likes him (stupid I know) but that's how women are. Lucky for you most women want something else to go to before they break up with a guy, it makes them feel secure, and safe.

The one problem you might run into if she breaks up with him is you being the rebound...most rebound relationships don't last longer than a month or so.

You make valid points there mate. I know I have 1iotis, but I have dated quite a few girls, never had a lasting relationship though, and I have never met a girl whom I take such an interest in, she's educated, has a good job, comes from good stock, this is the kind of girl I go for and I have never been with a girl who comes close to the way I feel about her, I was dating a very attractive girl, better looking in fact and fitter, but I was fantasizing about the other girl. I know it is a bit sad but I want to settle myself and with her...