hey guys,
So I've been working at my job for a good 6 months now, it's an office job, the turnover rate is very high and the social interaction is very low. Now at least a month ago this girl has just been hired on as an office assistant. She works on the same floor as I do and in the same exact position and seat that I used to work in (I have since moved to a different department in the agency), however my cubicle is just around the corner from her.

She is absolutely gorgeous, dresses exquisitely and carries herself just beautifully. I introduced myself when she was first hired on and have had some small chit-chat with her but nothing too deep.

Basically, at work I have a hard time communicating with girls I really want to have a relationship with because I don't want to fuck up and be immediately friend-zoned, considering that I will see this girl every day, so keeping that sense of mystery becomes a challenge.

What do you think I should do? I want to ask her out but I have very limited opportunity asking her out when we're not around coworkers, of which I cannot be around when I ask her out. I don't know if she has a boyfriend or not, but I don't really care either way.

Anybody have any relatable instances of picking up girls at work?

From experience, don't try to have relationships with people at work. The only time it is acceptable is if you are willing to quit if and when you breakup. I say when because, being around someone that long even if your not talking creates a social barrier when you are not at work. You have already co-existed in a social environment that tends to seep over into your other reality.

Depends on the job, but usually it's not much different from pick up OUTSIDE of the workplace. You have to introduce yourself, build rapport and comfort, then close (typically getting her number or inviting her on a date outside of work).

The routine I usually run is having some sort of ongoing witty/funny banter. Make it a point to say hi to her EVERY single day. Or comment about some stupid item that sits on her desk. Believe it or not, little things like this help to reinforce your existence in her mind. She won't forget about you if you say hi everyday. And it will even make her think about you since it'll become obvious at a certain point that you are making an concerted effort to talk to her. And it doesn't have to be sexual flirtation either. It can just be a very friendly type of communication with her.

Sometimes you might have to slow play it, but time is on your side if you work together and see each other every day. If you want to expedite things you can ask her the ballzy question "Would you ever go out with someone from work?" Which is a good line because it's not asking her out directly and she can let you down easily simply by replying No.

But like anything else, there is no magic trick about dating coworkers, and it comes down to you being willing to talk to them. If you do it casually and don't force it, you shouldn't have to worry about losing your job. And if the girl doesn't work in the same department as you then you don't have to worry about continual awkwardness when/if things go bad. Take it from me, I've dated at least a half dozen coworkers from several different jobs.

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