Hello all, I am a new visitor here. I'm going to try to answer some questions from a female point of view, but before I do, I have a question for you.

I go to a school and used to hang out with a guy who either was a PUA type or did many of the things you guys do, gaming, and trying to to sleep with many chicks, and so forth. Fair enough. Anyways, he and I no longer do that, and it was mutual. however that was over a year ago. I do see him around school, have mutual friends, and w are in classes together, and participate in some of the same activities. I am just curious if you guys had any insight into why he seems mean towards me. As an example, he'll ask me for an assignment, and i'll answer him, only for him to blatantly snub me the next time I see him in the hallway. I haven't cornered him for a conversation, or done anything beyond say hello. To me, it seems rude and silly to do that, and frankly it makes me wonder why in the world he asked me for help, and not somebody else. He also did the same thing a second time.

I get if if this guy isn't interested in me and is no longer trying to sleep with me, but do you guys just simply treat women this way? Does he do it because he hates me or simply doesn't like me? Now I pretend I don't see me and to me it feels unbearably awkward. what's so hard about acknowledging a person you know and used to be friends with even? I thought we were past all the game-playing.

Looks to me that regardless of the reason he does what he does, he's just an insecure, immature dude.

Like you said, he doesnt really have any reason to be mean to you. The only reason he'd do that is either because he's still trying to play this hard-to-get, cocky and funny persona; which is stupid at this stage, or he's bitter (or just a dick) and is taking it out on you.

I doubt its anything you've done that's caused this (unless there is more to the story?).

I just reread what I wrote and I am not sure if it is clear that he and I did hook up (only twice). I forgot about that, but that was what i meant by we don't do that any more and it was over a year ago.

Regardless, hes just being an immature douche don't you think?

Sometimes its worth taking somebody aside to clear the air, but do you think he'll respond to something like that or just play it off and say "i dont know what you're talking about I'm acting normal" ?

If you try talking to him one on one to see whats up and hes still being a dick, then theres nothing you can do except be the bigger person.

yes, he is definitely being an immature douche. I think if pulled him aside, he'd play dumb and it would be a useless conversation, so I guess i'll just shrug it off. I appreciate your insight! thanks for the help!

He's an immature douche bag. That's for sure. It also sounds like he has control issues and mental baggage concerning women, which is fairly common with guys in the PUA community.

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Acting hot and cold is probably one of the biggest idicators of attraction going
If one day hes not mean an then the next day he is, Its like hes thinking he doesnt
want too give too much away too you, This guys probably not mean but he just fancies the
arse of you.

Of course if he is just generally being mean then i wouldn`t even waste my time coming here to write
about him.

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Wow, what a candid and honest and heartfelt post.

Just remember there is the way we think the world is and the way it truly is.

Mean guys (jerks) receive attention, and attention is attractive. Even negative attention is attractive. It's just reality.

Forget about that guy, he may actually have issues. Just look for someone nice, but not too nice, because you will get boooooooooooooooooooored.

Flirt with the strongest guy in your school or work. That way if this jerk is mean to you, someone can beat him up. That will make you feel good. And it will teach him a lesson. Maybe he will apologize some day.

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