Gonna make this quick.

Had a oneitis for several years throughout college. Asked her out and hung out with her a handful of times.

Didn't get a chance to make a move due to her being sick and having to go to hospital and me going away to film a movie. Technically I could have made a move our first date but chickened out. (this was over a year ago btw)

Now I moved to Los Angeles and she still lives in Florida. I strongly believe she has always been interested in me and feel that if I had made a move when I had the chance, we could have been together forever.

Even after moving away almost a year ago, I still think about her every day. I've slept with eight women out here so far and still can not get this one girl out of my mind.

She texts/calls me every month or so to catch up and we talk for an hour or more. She has even flirted with me saying she wishes I could come with her to victoria secrets while she tries things on.

I don't know what to do. I just want to be with her but seeing as that is not really an option anymore, I'd like to move on and stop thinking about her so much.

Anyone have another option besides ftow? Because that did not seem to work for me.

Cut contact or you'll never get over her.

Some things in life that you can't explain.

In all honesty, you should cut all contact.

Now, on a more personal note, I've been, and still, in a similar situation with a girl. She's been my one-itis for over 3 years now and even if I try to move on, she always end up coming back.

Did I cut all contact with her? No. Should I? Of course.

Chickened out of many opportunities when I was a total chump (Even had her in my bed and didn't do anything). She then got in a relationship with another guy, kept contact with her kind of like you do. When she broke up with her boyfriend a couple of months ago, she came in my town to see me (she lives 3 hours away from me) literally 2 days after even if we haven't met in the past 2 years. I was older, more experienced and better with women. Hooked up with her but she was on her period so it didn't happen... Met her one more time a couple of weeks after, made out and I pulled out right when we were about to have sex (I was in a relationship at that time and I wanted to leave my girlfriend before having sex with her). Now that I'm single, I'm still looking forward to meeting her. In all honesty, she is fucking with my mind a lot and this is probably more harmful than anything else, but even if she sometimes pisses me off, I stay in contact. Who knows what can happen in the future? I believe in destiny.

Anyways, It's getting late and I'm really tired, I even forgot why I was writing all this. Let me stop this right now. aha.

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

I wish I could cut contact but she always contacts me first...and then it is just so hard to not reply, answer or call back. She will always leave a little message too if I dont answer.

MrMatt, glad to see someone else is dealing with this shit as well. Though I am sure you want out as much as I do, there is a part of me that doesn't want to move on because after meeting hundreds of other girls, no one has connected with me like her.

How would I cut contact? Just not respond back or somehow tell her that I can't talk to her anymore?

If I was hot for some girl and she was talkin' bout Victoria Secrets anything...I'd be auctioning my shit up on Ebay to try an get some plane ticket money and fly out there and fuck her asap. Worst case scenario you knock the bottom out of it for a few days then fly back home empty handed with a sore dick. Best case scenario you win back the girl of your dreams and start the relationship you always wanted.

I doubt you'll be looking back on this when you are 80 saying "I sure am glad I let that opportunity to fuck some young hot chick pass me by when clearly she was interested and all I had to do was just show up..."

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

I'm a broke actor living in LA. I can barely afford gas money, never mind a plane ticket across the country.

I will be going out there to visit my college friends at some point this year though so will likely try and hang out with her then.