Hi guys!

Okay so basically me and my girlfriend have just split up. We were together for 7 months and both loved each other - to be fair I probably loved her more than she loved me. Anyway I'm glad we've broken up because things haven't been great with us for a while and to be honest throughout our whole relationship I never felt secure which is strange because that has been something I've never worried about before - if she hadn't have broken up with me I think I would of with her because I couldn't take it anymore.

The problem is that while Im glad the breakup has occurred that doesn't make it any easier to get rid of the feelings I still have for her - another issue is we share the same friends so I can hardly talk to them about it because I don't want her knowing, I also can't see them as much because they will be seeing her, which doesn't help.

Anyway my question is - how can I get over this and what's the best way for me to move forward, Im more or less fine until my mind becomes inactive and I start thinking about her and cannot get the image of her with someone else out of my mind. I'm slightly concerned about this evening because it will be the first night since our breakup that I have nothing to do and am staying in.

Any advice would be great.

Thanks in advance.

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Berg!

The first thing to realize is that it's okay to be hurt. Breakups are hard. Men have feelings too. You're allowed to feel hurt, dejected, and alone. I've been there, trust me. Many guys have. But as time goes on the hurt will subside and you will find someone else and forget about your ex. Just get through it the best you can and try not to cling to the past and do things that will set you back in the healing process.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

Keep contact to a minimum and if you need to vent to someone, find a friend or family member with less connection to her who has your confidence. Time is the best healer of wounds, IME. Pretend when you are around her that you don't need her to be happy, show that you have moved on. Fake it till ya make it, man.

And of course, game other girls. You probably won't really hit it off with any for awhile, as you'll be subconsciously comparing them to your ex, but it'll build your confidence and self esteem back up if nothing else. Get a booty call or two, even if they aren't as attractive as your ex, as long as they make you feel more attractive. Getting over an ex isn't supposed to be easy, but it can be done. Regardless of whether you want her back or not, give the Ex2System a read, it definitely helped me when I was recently dumped.