I'm in a really messed up mental-state right now, after 3 years of rock-solid pua'ing and having fun i finally met a girl that i considered ''long-term''. So ofcourse after the initial meeting things started to become personal and we got in touch on a daily base, texting, calling and eventually meeting.

I feel that I'm losing my frame aswell, i used to be very confident, direct and more of a fuck whatever happends kind of guy. I feared nothing. Now because of this girl, i'm emotional unstable, yes, probably ''in love'' as we call it.

So today was our meeting, since last weekend she kept texting about Friday, oh i cant wait to see you! It's gonna be so much fun blablabla! Eventually it escalated into more ''I really wanna hold you, have you with me tonight'' sorta talk.

So today I went, around 0:00 i arrived and we met up at this party, since she had a ticket for me, i was waiting outside for her. Eventually she saw me and she came to me & hugged me, but she was wasted. It was a major backfire for me because i knew she'd act differently. I decided to just play along, play her game and see where we'd end.

She's the type of person that's quite shy etc... I dont know if booze was an answer for her bad self-value or if she's just that type of girl. I drink myself aswell, but for a first meeting, being extremely wasted, i dunno.

All-in-all i had a great night, strange even... she kept pulling me in, then kissing me, going for the french kiss and then pushing me away, probably like 20 times, or even more. I got confused. It was quite obvious that she was sexual attracted as she kept rubbing her ass against my balls and even touching them with her hands, i ofcourse played along, get intimate with her, took initiative, grabbed her ass, everything.

The whole night i had a good frame up and didn't give anything away, she kept chasing me. I didn't do it because i was annoyed, but because i didn't wanna escalate when she was drunk. When i didn't give her attention she went to other boys and started talking to them and having fun, it didn't bother me anything because i see competition as something to look at for in the future, if competition beats me, better now then later and it's a good guideline to improve myself, eventually she kept coming back to me. The only question i have for this part is, did she wanna draw my attention, did she want me to chase her, etc etc... besides guys giving her tons of attention, she never kissed them or went intimate, she just played along and had fun, giving high-fives and shit.

When she left she came to me, and gave me a kiss, i pulled her back and it felt as if she was resisting a bit (same as her kissing me & pushing me back) and gave her a kiss on the cheek saying now you can go!

Question is, how do i know how she felt at the moment? Maybe she was horny, maybe she did feel in-love, maybe her shyness took over and she kept feeling intimidated, i dunno.

Should i text her? Should i go cold & see what she does? Should i act busy, what's the next step i should take?

Were you drinking at all during this time? It's really hard to be on the same wavelength as someone who is drunk if you aren't even close to being on their level.

She's obviously into you. Her inhibitions such as fear were not present because she was drinking so much, so her real intentions showed. The fact that she only paid sexual attention to you and not the other guys means she wants you.

Don't do anything different than what you're already doing. Your current strategy is already working, so why try to fix something that isn't broken? Ride it out and see what happens. If she starts to pull away or act differently, that's when you can adjust your strategy.

Appreciate the advice, thanks.

I did have a few beers, but i wasn't drunk, tipsy at most. When we met up i first decided to have a lot of fun with her, make her laugh, and tease her. Since she was really drunk, she didn't really understand much & the music was really loud, so after a couple of minutes i decided to adjust more physically. I played it out perfect with push pulls. Pulled her in, had really intimate eye-contact and gave her a kiss next to her lips, it really drove her crazy and eventually she was just hugging me, touching me, being really sensitive, even came to the point where i push-pulled her again but she just grabbed my face and started making out.

I think i was being sentimental, i'm just really surprised that i lost my frame because of a girl, met so many beautiful girls, played my game really well, had a lot of fun and suddenly i'm the guy initiating texts first, sending shit like Ah! i really wanna hold you right now''.

Decided not to adjust my game, but myself. I will keep in touch on a good level but i will leave the emotional crap for now. I cba texting 24/7 to set up another date next week just for the same thing, We'll see how it goes. Despite me actually having feelings for her, i did luckily prepare myself for letting go. So i'll pretty much go balls to the wall mode again and be more direct, honest instead of playing the emotional games.

Good choice! Just remember not to be too direct. Even if you think you've won her over completely, by telling her that you're really interested in her and confessing your feelings, it'll kill all the attraction. Always remember to remain a challenge. You're the prize, after all.

Yes ofcourse, my way of being direct is more of a ''put her in a position'' part of direct. Something along the lines of ''you're cute, i'll give you that''. Many people here tend to build up attraction by going all the way around the subject, such as ''I've recently met this really cute girl, she's very beautiful (a)'', atleast.. that's how a friend of mine does is. You can feel it's like a little mind-game, but the information he gives is way off. eventually it does kill the attraction cause the girl knows it's about her and you're basically giving it all away. If I'd ever confess to a girl, it'd be physically and during a date. I'm glad I learnt about PUA 3 years ago, combined with my psychology, verbal/non-verb communication lessons it really does improve your game, your self-value and basically your entire life.

Thanks for the advice once again.

felt like posting some information about how things went / are currently going.

I didn't adjust much, just grew another pair and manned up again, the day after our meeting, i texted her around 7 saying I had a really good night. She replied with something similar and the ball started rolling again, she did send differently, but i think it was a mixture of her self-value and what happend (she might've felt a bit intimidated).

Yesterday I had another great conversation with her, i decided to keep the flirts for later and forged a really good personal band. Eventually flirting dropped by and she ended up saying ''You always know how to say the right thing, now I'm blushing once again! ^^'' , I ended the conversation and got another text from her saying ''Aww, I wish i could give you a big hug and a little night kiss - sweet dreams! ''.

Also sent her a text asking her out (during our flirting moments) giving her the option between wednesday & the weekend as I'm quite busy, ofcourse she insisted on going wednesday and she's thrilled. Honestly, if this thing doesn't end up into a relationship i'm buying lottery tickets.

All-in-all, everything went extremely well, expectations were far surpassed and i'm looking forward to our day 3.