Hey all,

A bit of backstory. I am 20 as i type this. Exactly a year ago to this day i was working in a bar. Every night i worked i would get at the very least a number close. I got a new job and about 3 months later found myself struggling to close a woman.

I consider myself a pretty good looking man and have a very high self esteem, until i look at a woman i find attractive. This was not always the case however. When im at a house party i am the man, but when at a club no matter what i do i find myself getting ridiculous AA.

I dont know why and need some guidance. I hope this is not a stupid question but why is it this happens? And sorry for the essay.

Only one way to get over AA no matter how big it is an thats approach

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A common misconception, which subsequently creates fear for a lot of guys, is that women do not want to talk to you. That couldn't be farther from the truth. Women love to talk. It's hard to get most of them to shut the fuck up half the time. Even if they have no interest in your looks, they'll still want to talk because they're so fucking chirpy.

If you approach a woman, 9 times out of 10 she will at least talk to you for a bit. I have never, in my entire life, been outright told to fuck off or anything like that. Nor has any girl ever been truly bitchy to me for wanting to talk to her. The closest thing to rejection is when she's clearly not interested in you but still tries to be nice and talk for a few minutes. That's when you politely eject and save face.

With that in mind, just start practicing. Talk to girls. Who cares what you say? Who cares if you get rejected? Each girl you approach will add an immense amount of confidence that will stick with you, regardless of whether or not it works out.

Thanks for the responses. I have decided training starts on Tuesday. A friend of mine is having a bit of a pre 21st at a club and my aim is to talk to as many people as possible. I wont be aiming for a close of any sort.

Therefore i wont be using any pick up lines, any openers i have read and i have decided i will not be rejected.

One question i do have is if i find myself struggling is there a way that i can calm my AA?

There is no magic pill or anything to calm your AA down, it's pure mental.

I think it's absolutely key if you'd put your pride besides you, 6 months ago i couldn't open up sets either, yet i was confident, direct and had a lot of succes before. eventually I found myself having way to much pride. When people say you have nothing to lose, it's true, there is nothing to lose, the only thing that people do get way to over-attached to is their pride, thus being afraid of getting rejected thus feeling butt-hurt and w/e. When i did put my pride aside and went like fuck w/e happends, i found that my game suddenly became twice as good.
If You're afraid of rejection, find yourself a line that helps you. Be careful though, there's a thin line between shit-testing & rejecting.

When a girl rejects me for whatever reason, i'd just go like

''Alright! Your loss (wink)''

That way, your position stays, and she is the one losing it.
Like the people above said, AA is a type of thing that can categorized as ''fight fire with fire'', just approach and you'll feel yourself having way more confidence in approaching.