Hey there,

I am 20, and am gaming a 21 year old HB8 that goes to my university. We are both looking for a LTR, though she is known to be very selective when it comes to guys.

We've known each other for a while, but just recently started to hang out (by accident through friend events). Since then, we meet once every 2 days or so through events or at school. In the past few meetings, she has shown some indicators of interest:

- general body language
- laughing at my jokes excessively
- on ride home with some friends, she sat in the back seat with me and put her head on my shoulders
- she took my cigarettes to 'help me quit' (I think it's her way to make sure we meet the next day so she could return them)
- mentioning a few times how we should hang out again (though it's ambiguous if it's along with other friends)

The problem is, I have no idea how to move forward with her. I know I will be able to see her in person every 2-3 days at school. I asked her to a D2 to a party that I was throwing, but she says she already had plans (which I later found to be true).

I'm good at showing high value and getting girls interested in me, but am very bad at building intimate comfort. I'm just not sure what I need to do next, and how soon I should do it. Have you been in a similar situation? How would you handle this situation, and what do you think my next steps should be?

Thanks!
Deenio

Judging by your post, the comfort level is high, your rapport is good and it's all going well.
When to escalate? Now. The longer you prolong, the harder it'll get. If she did show IoI's, what's stopping you from escalating? Fear of rejection?
If so, put your pride aside, You're interested in her, you do not want to be her best-buddy-to-call@4AM.

Keep your frame up, do whatever you are doing now, but make sure you can go on a real date with her, not a party, not with mutual friends, just you and her. Be more physical with her, start touching her arm, start touching her back, you can do it in a subtle way by linking it with a joke ''Haha, that's a good one - High five!'' Then hold her hand for a moment and see how she reacts. If she pulls away instantly for example, dont be alarmed, she might feel shy.

Eventually when you get the IoI's again, or she accept the physical touching, close her up with a kiss mate. It's important that you start taking it to the next step as soon as possible.

Thanks for the great reply QsQMayhem. I know exactly what you mean. I guess it is a fear of rejection at this point. I've had experiences in the past where the girl is interested in me, I don't build enough comfort and push for that 1-on-1 date, which turns into a "rejection" and I stop receiving IOIs. I feel that the problem has been that it's too sudden for them. Or maybe I'm just over thinking it.

I want to almost ease into asking her on a one-on-one D2. Seed it, then execute, but take it slow.

What do you think? Should I just call her and tell her to come hang out, or build up to it in the next 1-2 meetings next week? (she still has my cigarettes, so I'll be seeing her soon).

Again, much appreciated!
Deenio