ANyway so this girl Ive been shagging, me and her have had a spit of a weird couple of weeks as we havent seen each other or had sex. Its pretty much a fb deal but she keeps throwing out these weird situations.

This is what happened tonight:

*Earlier on in the day*

Me: Its kinda weird walking around with a gift wrapped cock. *She told me she only wanted my cock as a present for her birthday*

Her: You actually gift wrapped it lmao

Me: Love that you believe that, awh.

Her: shut it lmao x

Me:

* fast forward to 3 am at night, presumbably drunk*

Her: Babe

*Woke me the fuck up so I called her as couldnt be arsed with texting shit.

Me: Hey whats up?

Her: Hey what are you up to?

Me: I was asleep you just woke me up...*Was about to say more shit when this bombshell drops*

Her: Oh i woke you up and your phoning me ok ok whatever bye bye.

*Then she hung up, im pretty tired so im going to bed. Is this a mindfucker or is there a way to deal with this. Its pretty fucking annoying behaviour especially for someone i havent fucked in 2 weeks so im thinking of either dropping or freezing out.

Small update:

Woke up to her posting a facebook status saying "fella ima beed, heati on, ling lifee"

which translates to "fella in my bed, heating on, loving life"

I swear this shit is weird. Its like shes purposefully trying to get me jealous when really im just getting freaked out.

was that ''babe'' text not directed at you? or was it just a wake up call?

must not be serious between you two or something, does she know where you stand on a relationship? has it been clarified?

if you are in a monogomous relationship, then this is sort of dis-respectful of her to be sending these ''haha ambiguous other guy'' texts in your face if that is what this post implies, and you should set something down and let her know it's not ok with you (assuming it isn't by your post)

if she is not commited to you, you are not commited to her, then really you have no reason to get jealous and this shouldn't even matter to you (you don't own her), when she does this shit, just send her something totally normal like,

''hey, it's (your name), you got the wrong guy, text your other boyfriend so I can get some sleep ''

then wait for her to do her crazy female thing, like ''HAR HAR, LOL LOL, WASN'T ANOTHER GUY, LOL LOL, SORRY, LOL''

then you can just ignore her and message her when she isn't being annoying and if she sends too many texts trying to get your attention or what ever, like the classic

''you're not mad are you'' or some variation of female trolling tactics

just be like, ''wtf, it's 2am, of coarse im mad... go to bed weirdo, text me some other time''

if she was just giving you a drunk dial at 3am, who cares, either just set out you don't like that seriously, and ditch her if she keeps doing it, or just fuck with her and get revenge until she equally hates it and blows up at you, then just have a nice big fight, be like, ''it doesn't feel good does it'', then just take a little break from each other to cool off, go back, make up, blah blah blah

FIrst of all our relationship isn't monogamous and I have no idea who the text was directed at. I'm also not jealous I'm just a bit weirded out and wonder if she is just a crazy bitch. She's been doing odd things recently. THe past week has felt like she seriously wants me to be "Committed to her" whilst being able to be the naughty girl that she is as well.

SHe does weird "I want your attention" shit all the time. She got all attention seeky on her birthday, she tried to persuade me on monday to leave my birthday house party to go have sex with her (i didnt), she randomly texts me late at night with no prior texts saying "Hope you've had a good day x" multiple times this week she's ignored me when she see's me in person but seconds later if I'm talking to another girl she'll come tap me on the shoulder.

SO last night was more of a "Oh she text me at 3am for attention, I'l reward her this time by giving her some" then I get that shit. All I'm really wondering is if this girl is mental.

the only thing that really stands out is a possible desperate female ploy to be asked out when things are not monogomous without her having to ask you out,

it's sort of like, OTHER GUYS BRO, YOU GONNA GET ON THIS?

best way to go about keeping things from getting to the whole, you should be my boyfriend thing, is not hang out with her too much, don't be too fun to be around, just be a pump and go kind of guy, and just act like you give absolutely 0 fucks, until she gives you a shitty, ''this guy or you'' ultimatum, or she tells you she is going to date some other guy,

either way, just give 0 fucks about her seeing other guys and put it off as long as you can to postpone that define the relationship talk, and if she lets you know she's dating some other guy, just wish her luck, stay in touch, and pick thing up (if you want), back when she breaks up with the guy, don't burn your bridges and don't become her best friend

or... you could take the moral high ground and just more clearly manage her expectations before they arise, so she doesn't end up wasting her time and she knows there is no interest in the long term

or... you could take the moral low ground and sleaze your way into a fake relationship, and just keep it open (p.s. this is a bitch move and will destroy a girls self esteem when she finds out)

so what's weird about this?, this is like every girl on the planet

she likes you, she wants you to pay attention to her and make her feel good, it's like when guys fall in love and start sending out all the texts every day and start saying random ''I love you'' shit, when they don't mean it because they are needy for more and love is clouding up their brains
nah, pretty average, you're good, drunk dailing happens

she might just be starting to fall for you and getting crazy about it

if she is then it isn't genuine, its the "crazy girl brain" kicking or what you called "clouding up logic."

To be honest we have literally barely hung out over the course of the two weeks. In fact I don't think we have at all, we've text and talked on the phone once. We banter and such. Haven't fucked her in a while.

I've sent her "Don't do that shit, I need my sleep so text the right fella next time weirdo." but yeah I am also a pretty relaxed guy. She's a bit of a slut so I know she's been letting other guys fuck her anyway and the fb was a clarification so I know that now. Love knowing.

doesn't take much, a few jokes, and a compliment, something happens, reminds her of you, she starts to miss you, wants that attention back

who knows, OTOH, she could just be doing it to piss you off, who knows, but often the opposite of love tends to be indifference, and indifferent people are not going to be calling you at 3am when they are drunk, unless they are just calling/texting any number to look like they are not losers to other people or something (social proof when no one is talking to them)

So

Me: Don't do that shit, I need my sleep so text the right fella next time u drunkard.

Her: whoops lol

Complete lack of investment there or apology. Either genuine interest has gone or she did it just to see if I would react which I did.

Guessing a freeze-out is a pretty viable choice here SPAM.

You give her power only in sofar as you ALLOW her to pull you into her reality (whether real or imagined - perhaps she's trying to keep you off balance by being unpredictable OR she was offended by what you'd projected such as tone of voice or misreading you entirely). Freezing out is a stupid idea given you have no idea why she'd reacted that way, also her investment at this point may not be strong enough and by calling her bluff with a freeze-out you may only push her away for good (girls can move on pretty quickly, particularly if they're attractive - she'll simply seek validation elsewhere, stop kidding yourself that you're the end-all-be-all for her).

Brush it off as nothing at all and act as though it never even happened. Keep gaming her.

Okay I completely understand your post but surely if I keep gaming her after receiving this "bad behaviour" then surely I'm just supporting it.

I mean I've been given advice before about this and it was generally "You've had sex with her, she's told you she loves your cock, that its massive and make hers cum hard. Just lie back and let her chase you"

How am I supposed to game a girl and let her chase me. I mean what game do I even play after this. Personally from experience if you get a one worded response you respond with less, i can't here as her response is completely lack of any magnitude so yeah. I'm also obviously not thinking I'm the be-end-of-all her world as I've acknowledged that she has sex with other people and I don't care. Hell another user told me to "Stop gaming her, you've had sex with her multiple times, shes told you she loves it, you've won the game let her chase you" and her attitude outside of texting promotes this. When I give her loads of attention I get less back, the less I give the more I get.

If it supports my cause most people I've spoken to that know her have described her as weird. A guy I know who shagged her last year proclaimed her as "fucking mental" and some girls who know her have advised to me that she's a "bunny boiler" and to "stay away from that"

Unfortunately shes amazing in bed and fucking loud to boot.

Fuck it, time to roll out the big guns...

"I’m sorry. You are a nice girl. But I just can’t be around you because I am too fucking horny for you. I’m like a predator. You are not safe around me." (60yoc)

this isn't bad behavior though, you have already corrected the bad behavior (you told her to stop texting you at night), if she continues, that's what you punish, her trying to text other guys is not bad behavior when she is not committed to you, it's just inconsiderate of her to do it at 3am, her response was fairly normal
pretty much, stop caring so much, what's that beyonce song? if you like it then you should put a ring on it

if she is annoying you, calling you at night, tell her to stop (you did), if she continues, cut contact with her, you don't do this for her, you do this because she is annoying and shouldn't be fed more attention when she is being a problem
chasing is just about if you give a fuck about getting her or not, you are either trying to get her or actively ''trying'' (chasing), or you are indifferent and don't care (being chased)

you can be indifferent, actively show interest, and actively escalate, doesn't mean you are chasing

you can only communicate from a social frame, you can show active dis-interest, and you can not escalate, you could avoid calling her, but if you are needy in your mindset, you would still be chasing because you are formulating ''how to get her''
so have your fun then, and who cares, if you want a relationship with this girl or what ever, manage the expectations and see if you can make that happen, if not, stop caring about things that are not relevant to your relationship with her

she can bang other dudes if she wants, it's not disrespectful for her to do so, however it's fairly inconsiderate of her to call you at 3am when you are asleep if you have expressed that you don't like this behavior, that is where the respect comes in and the practical boundary that you have created here

if you are being butthurt about her and other guys, this is a lack of respect for her from your end, it is possessive behavior to want a girl to not see other guys, when you want to have the option open to not be monogamous with her, that's a double standard

it's like a girl flirting with a shit load of guys and trying to fuck new guys, while forbidding you to see other girls and only fuck her, and becoming offended if you mention another girl, withdrawing or trying to punish as a result

and why you would soft next a girl who you are actively interested in fucking, who will comply with sex, really makes no sense

more mind fuckery today after deciding to leave her for abit and reopen in a couple days she text me.

Her: I'M BORED.

Me: Come round then.

Her: I really want some eggs benedict.

Me: I'm making myself a blt, its gonna be intense.

Her: I want one!

Me: Stop being lazy and come round then.

Her: Give me an hour and il be there.

Me: You'll have to trust there will be bacon left.

Her: Please

Her: This best be a good sandwich.

Me: Don't ever doubt my cooking skills.

Her: I look forward to it.

Her: Is my sandwich ready yet?

Me: Yup, come round.

*45 minutes later*

Her: haha I'm cooking myself eggs benedict.

Me: Fair Play, sandwich is gone anyway. Enjoy the eggs.

Standard text gapping everything usual. She's a fucking strange one. Seriously she keeps doing this shit to me.

NOTE: Just got clarification that she has been fucking other guys. Which is a good note for me as it eliminates my emotions for her and shes currently begging for me to go round and fuck her purely cos im sexting her. They can't be fucking her right

hmm... after this one, this sort of changes the idea that she may be getting attached and looking for commitment, looks more like indifferent trolling now from this point of view, she is just sort of tooling you for fun

maybe it might be a wise idea to stop texting so much, and start using the phone instead to grasp a better context to the things she is saying and the mood she is in

i think she is getting into you...

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