So the other day I was chilling in the library and saw this one girl that has been going to school with me for years sitting on a couch waiting for a computer. Instantly I follow the 3 sec rule. I give her a hug and sit next to her, but slightly lean away from her as I'm talking to her. I ask her how she's doing, she says "I'm dying..." -I quickly/smoothly put the back of my hand on her forehead and then on her cheek to "check her temperature." She just says calmly -"I'm not sick". So we keep talking I make her laugh a little bit and she offers me some of her M&Ms. By the way, I'm dressed super stylish/chill. Anyways, Throughout the conversation I notice bodily ques that she's a little nervous, but for me, I'm feeling cool and comfortable the whole time. After about 6 min she says it's her turn to use the computer and kind of awkwardly gets up and says bye -but again, the whole time she's doing this I'm just sitting chilled out on the coach and respond to her 'bye' with a gesture of my hand.

I just want to know, do you think I escalated to the face way too quickly and that may be the reason why she seemed nervous?

I know she's said way back in the day that I'm good looking. I also rmr that the last time I approached her I was the one who was nervous plus I was choking up. Perhaps she was thrown off by my stronger approach?

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It's not that you escalated too quickly. I think she was probably surprised that you immediately assumed she was sick, though. I would have at least asked what was wrong before doing that. She could have just gotten an F on a test or something. That's not what's important though. You made an approach and had seemed to have had full confidence. That's great.

Most people in general are pretty shy. She was probably just nervous because an attractive (hopefully, right? ) guy approached her. You should have grabbed her number when she got up because I think you had it in the bag.

I think you did good!

That was money. You did nothing wrong. Kind of a one-off situation tho, because you already knew the girl, so you could skip the comfort and rapport stage and go straight for kino, but it still has the potential of being awkward, particularly because this was in a library and not a fun place like a bar or club. But you did good, you won't always get the girl even if you do everything right.

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