So I'm not going off on a rant how I'm stuck in the friendzone..trust me..but anyway, this girl I have known for a long time, we started hanging out a few months back, I had a few posts about her because she was my one-itus, never escalated, but never got "friend-zoned". I haven't hung out with the girl (alone) in about a month. She has been trying to go to lunch/fishing/etc with me and we have both been busy when we ask eachother. Keep in mind I have hung out with her multiple times alone, and like I said NEVER escalated because I was being a BIGGITY BITCH, I know.. I have always played the "nice guy" role and it's definitely playing to my disadvantage.

Well I was hanging out with my buddy and I was trying to get her to go with me and a few people to XXX. She said she couldn't but tuesday wednesday or thursday she could. So I message her and say okay tuesday and she agrees. I'm chillin with that same buddy and he takes her to the university because they have the same schedule and he is always callin people out and he tells her I said most of the time when we hangout its just me and her and that she said she was going to xxx with just me (WHICH IS TRUE), and he says she flipped out and said she has never hungout with just me and her (which is the biggest load of bullshit) and she said she wouldn't go to xxx with just me (also bullshit). I texted her today confirming tuesday and she said "no sorry I can only go wednesday ( don't worry about me". And she didn't mention anything he said. So I'm hanging out with my bud and he's tellin me all this and I'm just thinking what a lying bitch. And she didn't mention any of this to me? BECAUSE SHE'S FULL OF SHIT.

My question is: Should I get her to go to lunch with me this week and call her ass out for talking shit and lying? And don't tell me this kid is starting shit; he obviously is but it's truthful shit.

go, call her out, realize its your last opportunity to escalate (if its not already too late) and act accordingly.

or just forget about her and blow her off completely

I have known her for about a decade and we have never fought so its gonna be weird arguing with her. Especially since she's very prevalent in my social circle. I'm glad I got positive feedback. Will stay updated..

I agree with bundy you gotta call her out on this, but don't lose the plot, just be calm and collected and let her know what's going on.

Another thing I agree with is you gotta start escalating on this girl, start of slow throw some light escalation into the mix next time you meet, then slowly amp it up over a few meetings until you are escalating regularly, if you do it right she'll become attracted to you and she'll wonder how it all happened.

I escalate like crazy from the word go, but it's a boom/bust scenerio, do it slow and it will be much more clear where her limits are (if any) and if you cross them it will only be by a small margin so you save face.

Er yea, do that

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I agree completely with this Vic. I asked her to hangout tomorrow and with no hesitation she says "lol ok". What a hypocrite!!

UPDATE: We had planned to go to lunch tomorrow but she flaked on me. First part of the convo was really weird. Like it doesn't even sound like her? Asking really stupid questions.

Her: Did you go to xxx Monday?
Me: Yeah, why?
Her: Just double checking
Me: Yes, (insert name) we had lots of fun without you
Her: Good. (Really confused?)
Me: Ok
Her: Ok. Don't hate me. I can't go to lunch tomorrow. Maybe Saturday?
Me: (figured she was frame shifting so I changed it up) Why don't you just go to xxx with me Friday night?
Her: I work
Her: Fml...

I didn't respond back. I'm just confused because literally two weeks earlier she had never flaked, but here she is try to re set up dates to when she's available. I know she can't all the sudden get super busy.. Y'all think I should freeze her out?

Here's the root problem with all your subtle and cunning machinations:

She doesn't care

Move on as nothing good is going to come of this, and its already been an emotional sink for you.

... She just texted me "Never mind, I can go!" -_-

that girl seem generally confused by her own feelings... personally i dont think anything serious can come out of this girl, ive been there with a girl how always got an excuse to cancel on me, then i didnt talk to her for a month and ignored all her calls and texts, then she would suddenly drop everything on her mind to be with me...

i think you can sort the thing out, but you will probably never know exactly where you have her

Exactly, it's weird, I'll stop talking to her for a good 2 weeks and she'll be begging me to hang out and then when we hangout and she tries to make it seem like I pursued her. Very confusing. Pretty much done with her but if she hits me up again then I'm gonna do something about it.

yeah, dont start anything with her by yourself, and of course you wont say no to a hot girl(who would?) just make sure you dont get any feelings for her, i dont think anything good will come from this girl. but good luck anyway!

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