Met a girl on Sat night. HB9 - we had a 20 min convo when I chatted her up.
Turns out she liked horse riding. We chatted about it for a while and ended up saying we would do it together one day. She happily gave over her number. As it happens, I am pretty sure she said she was single when I asked at the start of the conversation..

So I have left it till today and txt is as follows.

Me: Is that Laura with the American twang?
her:( 20 mins later) haha yes.
Me: (25 mins later) Been practising round my house running up and down on fake horse (etc..) Hope you are still up for the challenge ...
her: (2 mins later) hahah thats very funny.

5 mins later I actually then got another text from her which didnt make sense. When I asked about it - she replied 'Sorry mistake'.

and thats is basically it....

what do I do?

_________________
here to learn.. thats all.

What was the mistake text?

The only real reason to text is to set-up your next meeting. So, to answer your question, invite her out. Being funny over texts isn't going to accomplish anything beneficial. Stop beating around the bush and ask her to do something with you.

/IMO, the mistake text isn't really relevant.

-Wolf

_________________
Screening: drama-free-relationships-1-screening-vt124827.html
Bad Behavior: drama-free-relationships-3-the-soft-next-vt125554.html

'Extension side no'..

_________________
here to learn.. thats all.

If I can't immediately think of a good response to her text I'll leave it open, and simply text her an 'opener' another time not even acknowledging her previous text.

Leave it a day and then completely reopen. Anyway heres some text analysis.

Me: Is that Laura with the America twang? //Okay opener.

Her: haha yes //Shitty first reply, possibly a shit test to see how much attention you give her for so little response.

Me: Been practising round my house running up and down on fake horse (etc..) Hope you are still up for the challenge. //Too much investment on your part when she's barely invested herself. Think about it. She said "yes haha" and as a reply you tell her you've been practising for her (it was obviously a joke but it comes across as needy) Then you try to find out if she's still up for it. This sort of thing you should ASSUME. For example.

You: I've been practising blahdeblah, your gonnnnna lose!

her: (2 mins later) hahah thats very funny. Yeah all interest lost at this point. Reopen her, try again, be less needy and more teasy bro. Have fun with her don't keep pushing for a meetup.

Also when it comes to the point where it seems like she wants you to ask to meetup be a man about it. e.g "Meet me tomorrow at 4" if she doesn't text back, ignore it, move on.

Thanks guys. really appreciate it.

As it happens she txt back after to apologise and say she was in meeting. And asked how I was (phew). Think some valid points about showing too much investment and weak openers.

After 3-4 texts I actually said lets meet up and asked when she was free. She gave a short reply that maybe she was free next week. I replied 'Wed?'. She said she would let me know as she may be in another part of town next week.

Think she is genuine, but you never can tell.

_________________
here to learn.. thats all.

Don't push at her, she said maybe let things sit for now. In mean time create opps with other women.

I agree about not pushing it. So the way it ended in text (to clarify)..

me: Let's meet up for a drink. When you about?
her: um prob next week
me: Wed?
her Cin I let U0 +knnow later on in week. As I may be in (area) X
me: Laura, Don't text and drive.. it's dangerous .
her: I dont drive


So I made sure (in order not to be needy) that she was last to text and I have left it. This conversation was on Wed just gone. We are now on Sunday.. what is my next move?

_________________
here to learn.. thats all.

Not necessarily. Often times you'll encounter women you did not have the opportunity to establish enough comfort with to agree to a date during your first encounter. Texting can be a good way to establish comfort with a girl in such circumstances, or if she is particularly shy or 'jaded' due to bad experiences in the past. To say it is solely for setting up a meet is a bit presumptuous, furthermore it would be a much bolder move to arrange for the meet-up during an actual phone conversation, ideally.

Any ideas on this?.. Tuesday has obviously gone by and we are now on Thurs. I haven't heard from her so wandered what my next step is.

_________________
here to learn.. thats all.

I dont know. Every idea I have is AFC. I am thinking to get her talking and build some flirty text to build interest. I dont know how to do the transition or if that is the right step.

_________________
here to learn.. thats all.

DISAGREED! Texting should only be used to set up a date, because nothing good has ever been accomplished solely over the phone. That being said, she might not want to date you because you failed to build enough comfort in your prior meeting, and you will have to do it using your phone. This is definetly NOT optimal, but if you have to do it, at least CALL her, don´t text. Phone gaming (when done properly) can convey much more emotions than texts can in a shorter time, shows more confidence and skips all the stupid "so I waited for 10 minutes for her to text back and now she has replied with hahaha.... OMG OMG WAT DO" part.

_________________
404 game not found

Tuesday has just gone when we were talking about meeting. I am not sure if she was meant to contact me last Sunday, but thats how it seemed.
she is a very hot girl and there are loads of guys after her (i know from a friend of a friend etc), so it's like I am trying to not show any attachment to whether she could make it or not, just by not contacting her around the time.

I was thinking to leave it till this Sun to call/text her and try and set something up for this week. Other side of the coin is if I leave it too long, she may think Im a messer..

_________________
here to learn.. thats all.